A sister working at an immigration center in the diocese heard someone calling, "Sister." She turned around and a woman whose face she remembered abruptly gave her a hug. The sister hadn't seen her for some time and asked: "How is it that you are here at the center?" "I have gone crazy," she answered. "What is that all about? sister responded.
The sister recounts the full story in a recent issue of the Bible & Life magazine. The
woman, Duit, a Vietnamese immigrant, now a Korean citizen and married
with a child, had just returned from the court house where she
had petitioned for a
divorce. Her husband also was there, standing at a distance, shoulders
dropping, averting his eyes from what was going on. A woman relation,
very much upset, stood by his side.
husband was envied, said the sister, for his kindness by many of the
women who came to the immigration center to learn Korean. He had
bought a house for the wife's family and took care of the expenses of
schooling for her brother. Sister could not understand what was going
on, and was determined to find out.
discovered that while learning Korean at the center, Duit had found a
job in a factory, where she met a Vietnamese man and fell in love.
More surprising to her was that the man had a family in Vietnam. Since
Duit was now a Korean citizen, sister felt there was a possibility that
Duit was being used by the man, and tried to dissuade her from
proceeding with the divorce. She replied that she was present when
the man had called his wife in Vietnam, asking for a divorce. Hearing
this additional news, sister was even more convinced that both had lost
their senses. As Duit had said, it felt as if she had gone crazy,
believing what the man was saying and nothing else made any
difference. In her desire to follow her feelings, the hurt she was
inflicting on the husband was enormous. The consequences of this
behavior, sister was convinced, would be far from smooth.
called the husband shortly after and was told the wife had left the
house and had put everything in the hands of a lawyer. The husband said
he would now concentrate on being a good father for their child. He was
calm about all that had happened and never mentioned what he had
done for the family or complained. Sister felt bad for what happened to
the husband; his hope that his wife would return made it all the harder
to accept. Sister was also concerned on the influence this would have on
the other women of the center.
what happened to Duit, who knew what she was doing was crazy,
divorcing a husband who seemed ideal in so many ways, leaving her husband and child for a perilous future,
was beyond her understanding, the sister said. She was consoled,
however, by the thought that many of these foreign-born women,
though mistreated by their husbands, often work through the difficulties
in their married life to become good wives and mothers.