Kyeongyang Magazine has an article on marriage in the different cultures of the world, written by a professor of cultural anthropology. She goes to the different types of marriages that we see in the world today: monogamy, polygyny ( having more that one female as a mate), polyandry ( having more than one male mate at the same time) We have also same sex marriages in the society.
Polygamy, is the
marriage of a spouse of either sex with more than one mate at the same
time. In recent years this has changed in many cases to marriage to
one person at a time: brought about not always easily but
because of the changes in the cultures, the laws of a country, and
the frequency of divorce we have serial monogamy. In many of the cases
the children are relating to the parent who has left, and is helped
financially, and the relationship continues, which is not much
different from polygamy.
Recently many of our young
people no longer feel that marriage and the raising of children is the
way they will find happiness, but will only hamper their personal
development. They have seen in families the conflicts between husband
and wife, and with children: abuse, violence, abandonment and even
murder. Communication in the family is difficult; and they see the number of old people who die alone.
When we see the problems families have, we need to ask ourselves what is a family?
The family is no longer what it is meant to be. The families relate
with each other without love and with indifference. The need
to relate with each other with love, understanding, concern, giving-in, will change the mentality and enable the family to overcome the difficulties they will face.
The message of religion for the family is
not the systematic formalities they have learned, but love,
respect and equality of the members in relating with each other with the
practice of the virtues. Each member has to remember that their best
intentions, no matter how noble and beautiful, and worthy of praise, the
body will not permit their implementation without a great deal of effort
in their cultivation.
According to the Catechism of the Catholic
Church the virtuous person does what is good consistently, easily, and
joyfully. Koreans hear the proverb: a habit at 4 years of age
will be with the person when he is eighty. The effort to rid ourselves of the bad habits will require many repeated actions to undo the hold that bad habits have on us.
She concludes the article by wanting the Church to not only emphasis the teachings of the Lord, but to work to change the
unhealthy conditions families face in society.