"Happiness is ridding oneself of power and calmly becoming empty,  and suddenly happiness appears. It is not something you grasp but   receive as a gift" These are the words quoted by a journalist of the  Catholic Peace Weekly at the beginning of his interview of the Jesuit   chairman of the board of trustees of Sogang University. The title of the   article was "By remaining in the presence of the Lord, happiness will  come  to us."
Today those who are happy are rare, says the Jesuit. As a  teacher living with students and  as a priest ministering to Catholics, he feels there are few persons  who are   really happy. Constantly in competition and seeking to possess, they  strive  to become what they think they should  be. Absorbed with getting all the specifications necessary for a  well paying job in a good company they realize the happiness was a mirage.
Actually, to achieve happiness  is much easier than making money or getting  educational accreditation or enjoying power, All you have to do, he  says, is adopt a welcoming, non-grasping attitude. He introduces us to a  poem that tells us about a child who is told that if he is able to  grasp 3 petals falling from a cherry tree before they touch the  ground, he will be happy. The child at first  could not do it. When he  tried to grasp for the petals, his moving hands stirred the wind around  the petals and blew them away. The child of the poem learned that all  that was necessary to catch the petals was to stretch his open hands out  in front and let the petals fall onto the hands.
Indirectly,  it is the search for truth that brings happiness. The only effort  required is to rest in God. If we are in a restful state the Holy  Spirit will lead us to the truth. When we understand what truth is we  become happy, and can directly experience what happiness is. The  journalist asks the  priest what is the formula for finding  happiness. He laughs on hearing  the question. Looking to find happiness, he says, would be going in  search of a second-hand, unreal happiness. Happiness does not come with  the possession of something but rather with the reception of something  by first emptying  ourselves, and keeping our eyes wide open. 
Those who  do not have an anchor cast deep into the meaning of human existence will  be  like a flame before the wind or a castle built on sand. To have recourse  to the origin of existence,  prayer and self discipline is necessary.  For those who believe they have no time, are too busy, and find life too   difficult for much prayer and self-discipline, he recommends an hour a  day of quiet time in prayer. In this  digital age we cannot go back, he admits, to a more leisurely time, but  this lack of leisure time is  one of the reasons that happiness eludes us.                                                        
 
