Expectations On Pope Francis' Visit to Korea

The visit of Pope Francis to Korea is approaching. Listing only the formal events: the beatification of the 124 martyrs, Mass of the Assumption, visit to  the Flower Village, attendance at the Asian Youth Meeting, Peace and Reconciliation Mass, meeting with the  President-- there are over 20 events in which he will participate. The Peace column in the Peace Weekly invites us to spend time looking over the itinerary of  Pope Francis.

The columnist wonders whether there is a slight difference in what the Church of Korea thinks important and what the Vatican thinks important. The Korean Church considers the beatification on Saturday as central. In 1925, we had the beatification of the 79 martyrs, in 1984 the canonization of the 103 saints and  this year the beatification of the 124 martyrs: high points in our Catholic history.

We don't know what the pope and the Vatican thinks, but we can do some guessing.  During the five days, he will have two luncheons that have been made known publicly:  one is with 20  representatives of the young people at the 6th  Asian Youth Day on August 15th, and the other meal is with the Asian bishops on August 17th. This for the columnist seems to indicate where the pope's interest will be. The pope has shown an interest in evangelization of Asia, which would indicate the emphasis he is putting on the Asian Youth Day.

On August 18th, the Mass for Peace and Reconciliation at the Seoul Cathedral is the event the columnist shows the most interest. North Korean Catholics have been invited to attend the Mass. The North, at the least provocation is ready to shoot off rockets and missiles; one wonders if attendance is in any way possible. They will be attending the Asian Games scheduled for September in Inchon, which does hold out some hope. Unification of the peninsula is not something that we can do on our own, and the columnist believes Pope Francis will bring hope. 

Japan some 429 years ago, four teenagers in the Tensho embassy were  sent  to Rome where they met Gregory 13th.  340 years later one of our Catholics, Dr. John Chang Myun met with Pope Pius XI in the first  official visit of a Korean to the Vatican. The pope's visit to Japan was in 1981, but he has visited Korea in 1984, 1989 and this year will be the 3rd visit. Doesn't this mean that he has much to do in Korea? Pope John Paul II in visiting Eastern Europe was given some credit in bringing  about German unification.

The columnist is hoping Pope Francis' visit will help to prepare the unification of the peninsula. In the Mass at the Cathedral he will be talking to the separated families and the thought of this fills the columnist's heart with emotion. He is looking forward to the visit as a child would Christmas.

Wisdom of the Child

A priest in his spirituality column in the Catholic Times mentions having the task to write an article for a magazine and goes to a large book store to get some  background information on the topic. It was  a weekday and bustling with shoppers. That morning, a very hot day, he had too much cold water to drink and his stomach was giving him trouble. He began looking for the lavatory signs.

Near the section for children, he spotted the sign. Children were on the floor reading books, playing,   mothers reading, and in groups whispering to each other. The priest went into the lavatory took care of his needs and while washing his hands heard some of the children talking while urinating. He listened carefully to what was being said.

One child: "My mother has a name card!" Apparently, the child was proud of the fact in having a mother with a 'calling card'.

Another child answered: " My mother doesn't have a card."

Another child's voice: " Hey,  a card means that she has much to do outside."

"Why?"

"Don't you know? She is busy and doesn't have time to play with you. With a card, she has to be outside and work."

The lad who volunteered the information on his mother having a card: "I hope my mother uses up all those cards."

The priest was flabbergasted by what he heard. They were kindergarten aged, and they knew what a 'calling card' meant and how difficult the world was in  which  adults had to work. They were concerned about their mothers, and even little children  were talking like adults.

Most priests and religious do not have calling cards. When they do have a card, it is not for business purposes. He observes that those kindergarten children in the lavatory had a better appreciation of what a 'calling card' means than those who have one. Life should be more than work, so he finishes the article with a prayer: "Lord who has tied us together as a family, help us to use up our calling cards and  have more time with our families, Amen."

Influence of Culture On Us

The influence culture has on us is difficult to gauge. We are born into a culture and from the earliest years, it begins to form us. What we say or fail to say, what we do and don't do, what we consider polite behavior, can often be  predicted.  A vice principal of an elementary  school is an example in the Peace Weekly article  of how he was programed to act in one way but chose to act differently. The mission he gave himself was to be  concerned with those he was meeting daily.

With a simple word, we can energize or hurt another. The article begins with the words from a talk on Valentine Day of this year where Pope Francis talking to the young people said a healthy family requires the use of three phrases: "Thank you, I'm sorry, May I?" The  vice principal began using these  words in the position that he occupied at the school.

He mentions where he reprimanded a teacher for what he had done. This continued to bother him. The teacher from that time avoided the vice principal. In Korea, the senior and junior relationship is extremely strong and for an older person, and one with a higher position to apologize to a younger person, and of lower rank is difficult. He went to the class room  of the teacher and apologized for the hurt given by his words.

The teacher didn't know what to say hearing these words from the vice-principal. For the vice-principal to say he was sorry was awkward, to say he was sorry to a younger teacher was  embarrassing, but  as soon as the words left his mouth, he felt great relief. The teacher also was happy to have the relationship restored and told him of his relief.

The next day at home he told the family that he loved them. He was determined to use words that he had never used in the past. The wife with a smile on her face told him to refrain from using insincere words. She did admit: "We show that we love each other, by the way, we treat each other, but by expressing our love in words does help the respect and the care we have for each other."

That afternoon he ordered five pizzas for the teachers' room. They were puzzled  on what prompted the change in the vice-principal's behavior. He just wanted to show his appreciation for all they were doing, and they gave him a round of applause and were happy to see the change.

"Expressing with words what I had inside allows me to know myself. My family and those I work with daily are precious, showing thanks gives me great peace" these words of the vice-principal expressed his change of attitude.

We live according to the words we use, and they become our actions and way of life. In Sirach 18: 15-16 we read: "Like dew that abates a burning wind, so does a word improve a gift. Sometimes the word means more than the gift..." The article ends with the journalist lamenting the coldness and stiffness  of our society and a desire to see the more frequent use of kind words with  those we interact with daily.

Communication

Articles by a professor of ethics continue to appear in the diocesan bulletin on  communication. In the past, he outlined the conditions for communication, this week he considered the structures for communication. To be at the same eye level as the  persons with whom you want to  communicate is the expression he uses, for him  basic to the structure of communication is reciprocity. If one is strong and the other weak, of higher or lower  rank, and this is not overcome, we do not have the reciprocity but the danger of tyranny.

He uses the example of anthropologists who when they visit the natives of an area behave differently than travelers. They relate very naturally, freely and deeply with the natives. They work to be on the same level as the natives which  enables the natives to open up to the anthropologists. They look at the environment with the eyes of the natives. When those who come see themselves as civilized and feel superior, look at the natives with pity, the natives will not be open. This being at the level of the other is difficult.

What is the meaning of being at the same eye level? Matching the eye level of the other means to be  equal with the other. I have to have the same respect for him as I have for myself. He is not me, and I am not him; we are different, and we respect this difference and see it as important, all a part of the equality of the parties. The ability to do this is the sign of our maturity. The maturity of this relationship will also determine the quality of the discussion.

Parents and teachers to communicate with the children and young people will have to acquaint themselves with the need to match the eye level of those with whom they are relating. Just looking at it physically, the children are going to be intimidated. The children are not able  to be at the eye level of the adults, so from reason the adults have to lower themselves to the level of the child. If the communication doesn't develop, the professor says, it is because of the inability to lower themselves to the level of the child. Parents and teachers when the problems are not solved often fail to realize it is their inability to understand the child that is the problem.

Vertical, hierarchical order of our society, authoritarianism, makes the matching of eye levels very difficult. This equality is seen best in the relationship between friends. But even here we have the equality of similarity, and inadvertently both   vying with each other, which can make the  relationship tiring. Our society has difficulty helping us to react with each other at eye level.

The description of what it means to have the structures in place to communicate are clear, but because of our character weaknesses, the obstacles seem insurmountable. Acknowledgement of the facts would go a long way in improving the position we  find ourselves in when trying to communicate.

True Values in Life

Even the parishioners of the  small mission station here in Gyodong were given a petition to sign asking for legislation to determine the cause of the Sewol Ferry sinking on April 16th. Since the disaster a  hundred days have passed and the search for truth is still continuing.The tragedy and the conscientizing that is  taking place should bring changes to the country.

Family members of the victims are on a  hunger strike demanding an early adoption of a  law to find the cause of the incident that left more than 300 people dead or missing.

Both Catholic papers had editorials on the problems in finding  the truth. Flowery words are used to describe the anguish of the families and the sorrow that accompanies the tragedy, but little has been done to discover the truth. The tragedy was man-made, could have been prevented, and we have not come any closer to discovering who was at fault and why, after three months.

Ten of those missing have not been found and there is a fear that we will forget the implications of what happened. The impact on the public can be compared to the 9/11 tragedy in the States. More so than the States the sinking of the Sewol Ferry opened up avenues of thought  that were not  easily accessible to the public.

The sinking of the ferry brought to the mind, said one of the participants in a public discussion on the tragedy, the many problems we have in our society:  the emphasis on economic progress without qualification; the value we give to life and human rights, took second place to profits; widespread corruption; lack of interest for  safety; dereliction of duty; weakness of crisis management on the part of government;  incompetence; and the weakness of the mass media in reporting. Many other areas have been given light by the tragedy.

Another participant representing those who lost someone in the tragedy said we should not forget the kind of  society that permitted this disaster to happen. Because of political  party squabbles on how to proceed each party is jockeying for positions and not proceeding in efforts to find the truth. There are also those that are telling the families to put an end to their efforts to find the truth. It is not difficult to image the hurt that this is causing the families. All they want to know is the truth to prevent this kind of tragedy in the future.

At the conclusion of an article on the issues involved a university professor mentioned people trying to fix something after the problem has occurred, they are trying to close the stable door after the horse has bolted. Closing the door with laws, systems, and procedures will not take care of the problem, says the professor, what is necessary is coming to a new understanding of what is important in life.

'Time is Greater than Space'

With  the coming of Pope Francis to Korea, both within and outside the Church, various voices are heard expressing themselves. Some waiting for the pope's words of encouragement  and  consolation, others showing concern for the pope's health during the hot humid days of August. Voices of citizens who do not want to see government funds used on ceremonies  and want all to be kept small, in harmony with the pope's personality and values. There are also wishes  for the pope not to visit the largest home for the handicapped in Korea at the Flower Village, but rather to visit with  those who are demonstrating  against the acts of the  government in not  respecting the rights of the citizens, and the  unjust firing of workers in big business.

The peace columnist of the Peace Weekly feels it is  healthy to have these divergent views on the visit. Only one voice expressed during this time would not be a sign of a healthy society. There is one wish he would have; to lower some of  the walls and get rid of prejudices.

The pope wants us to think much about what we say and what we need not to say. We need to think deeply about what we say and write, and have a heart at peace.

We have invited the pope  to come to Korea, but at the same time he is inviting us to get closer to Jesus. We need to listen carefully to what he will say to us during the visit. More than being concerned with whom he meets and where he goes is what he has to say. We need to lower are walls and listen with equanimity.

The columnist introduces the story of Martha and Mary (Luke 10:38-42) where our Lord said the listening was the better part. Francis is coming to Korea as a messenger of the Gospel: to give witness to Jesus  and spread his message. There needs to be a harmony between the two sisters, but Jesus did say  Mary had selected the better part, and  it was  not going to be taken away.  The pope  wants us all to have a closer relationship with Jesus.

In Joy of the Gospel: "Here we see a first principle for progress in building a people: time is greater than space" (Joy of the Gospel # 222).  Where the pope goes is not as important as what he says. In #226:  "Conflict cannot be ignored or concealed. It has to be faced. But if we remain trapped in conflict, we lose our perspective; our horizons shrink and reality itself begins to fall apart. In the midst of conflict, we lose our sense of the profound unity of reality. "

The different opinions expressed on the visit are a sign of life, but also we need a desire for unity and to work towards its actuality.