A 3-year-old grandson of the writer was excited playing with the bathroom faucets. He called to his grandfather to come and join the fun. He slipped and hit his face on the wet floor and started to cry. "I knew this would happen" he blurted out between sobs.
Apparently, he was repeating the words of his mother when he behaved as he shouldn't. Why did he do it? But isn't this true of all of us? Why do we do what we shouldn't. It's true of his grandfather, inspectors, poets, actors, teachers, priests, human right's activists, pastors, politician....
The #Me Too movement continues and is shaking the whole country. Names are mentioned as perpetrators but it's safe to say that all of us males are perpetrators.
The writer in an article in the Catholic Times brings again to the attention of the readers this movement in Korea which has even seen the suicide death of a famous actor after being accused of sexual harassment. Of course, harassment can be grave or slight but the news reports often don't make the distinction and the possibility is always present that a person becomes a social outcast for an impropriety that may not warrant the penalty that society imposes.
The article in the Catholic Times mentions that we should not be seeing people as means but as ends. The movement is doing a great deal of good but the danger is always present that what should be a matter for a criminal investigation and tried in a court of law is tried in the court of public opinion with public ostracism.
The words of Confucius come to mind: hate the sin but not the sinner. Obviously very hard to do in practice. We know the incident in the Scripture where Jesus does not respond to an angry crowd who want to stone a woman caught in adultery. He writes silently on the ground and tells the innocent ones to be the first to cast the stones. They all walk away. "I do not condemn you, go and sin no more."
Korea is a patriarchal society and this movement should be a help in changing the culture, which has considered women as the object of a man's sexual gratification. The writer sympathizes with the feelings of the women but hopes they will not bury all the perpetrators with criticism and hatred and forget the need for forgiveness and when necessary the legal procedures opened to judge wrongs done. He concludes the article with the judgment that it's
difficult to criticize without hating.
These last days of Lent give us many things to think about and not the least is the lesson from the washing of the feet at the celebration of the Mass on Holy Thursday.
At present, the equality of the sexes, cooperation between them is the direction in which society is going. The Church needs to redefine its understanding of this relationship. An article in the Kyeongyang magazine by a professor at a university graduate school shares her thoughts with the readers on the subject.
The Bishops in 2005 seeing the results of a consciousness survey, became determined to have a greater number of women in leadership positions and to change the structures that are preventing this from happening. Mentioned also were programs to facilitate this change. However, she says, this is easier said than done for many still feel the women's role is behind the scenes as a cooperator and not as a leader.
The Second Vatican Council was to become an updating of the church (Aggiornamento). It was a call to open the windows and reform. It was to be like the first community led by the spirit, fellowship, conscious of being the body of Christ, returning to becoming the people of God. We are all part of the church. The church was to change from a vertical to a horizontal understanding of Christ and the community. From a woman's view let us look at what we have.
In 1994 the pope makes clear to the church: "I declare that the Church has no authority whatsoever to confer priestly ordination on women and that this judgment is to be definitively held by all the Church’s faithful." Understanding this teaching the writer looks for the place of women within the church and sees the role as motherhood.
The Church understanding of woman related to motherhood and their mission is seen by many feminists as the motherhood myth: women are born with an innate instinct for sacrifice and giving love. Many feminist see this as ideology and criticize it greatly. They see this as curtailing the rights and freedom of women. This kind of thinking on motherhood that enters society limits the role of women both in politics and society and gives men their patriarchal control over women as a settled given.
There is a departure in the teaching of the Church and many of the feminists in the way they look at the women's role in society. She proposes the role of women as mothering but not as some of the feminists see the concept. It is a caring, an understanding that is not limited to the family and the raising of children. She quotes the passages of Scripture where the praise of Mary was not as a mother of a child but as a person who listened and obeyed the word of God.
Motherhood is not limited to the family but is a characteristic the world needs today and our Blessed Mother is an example of this type of motherhood and caring and it was not limited to the birthing and nurturing in the family but extended to the church and the community that was born.
The spirituality of women is based on a motherhood that spreads to the whole world. This motherhood needs to go beyond the family and begin to influence the whole world. This social characteristic of motherhood contains love, caring, mercy, sacrifice, wisdom and hope. Qualities that the world sorely needs.
In an interview with America magazine, published by the American Jesuits, Bishop Kang of Jejudo urges Trump to reconsider North Korean strategy. An article in the Catholic Peace Weekly reports on the interview in which the bishop asks for peaceful dialogue and cooperation based on mutual respect as a peaceful solution preparing for the summit on the Korean Peninsula.
"True peace cannot be achieved with weapons and military operations," says the bishop. North Korean people have a strong pride in their regime and its people. North Korea has survived many extreme calamities: the floods of 1995, many died of starvation. They are prepared to face any economic pressures that may come.
Bishop Kang explains that North Korea has received Chinese aid for a long time, it maintains its independence even in the face of extreme adversity because of its national pride. "I will not give up even if I starve to death."
We need to respect the pride of the North Koreans. It doesn't help to hurt their pride. The bishop hopes President Trump will use more refined language when addressing the North. Even if the Korean leaders continue to use very aggressive and violent language as in the past.
North Koreans are living abnormally in repression and under continual surveillance. We have seen in recent world history that other socialist countries because of tension can collapse unexpectedly.
We can not expect peace as long as we have hate in our hearts. Necessary is working to realize the principles for universal peace. We need an attitude that sees what interferes with world peace and criticize it. We should not condemn others as demons, curse them and wish them to dissappear from the planet. We were filled with hostility and grudge toward our brothers and sisters across the border. Hostilitiy encourages struggle and conflict and does not promote peace.
The Korean and American Church are able to contribute to the peace of the Korean peninsula. Diplomacy is limited but we are able to give humanitarian assistance which has a role to play. In 1995 when North Korea because of the flood were starving the Korean Church supported them with food, and we had a meeting with the North. Our expectations for peace and reunification have been betrayed for a long time but peace can come unexpectedly.
The writer of the column on reconciliation and unification in the Catholic Times mentions a time when in high school, on a cold wintry day, she was going to an after-school academy for study. She was wearing a jacket and hat. As she exited the subway station, a young man coming from the opposite direction, their eyes met, as he passed, he quickly grabbed one of her breasts. She was confused not knowing what to do: call the police, yell —attempting to put it all together—she gazed in the direction of the young man and he gave an ugly smile, turned around and disappeared.
This was an incident in her life. How do we cope and overcome the problems that arise? Here was a case of shame added to unbecomming moral behavior. She seriously thought whether she could continue to live as if nothing really happened. For some time she began to realize it was terrible. Did he realize what he did was not just a mischievous little trick but could seriously leave scars for life?
The #Me Too movement is in full swing. If you asked any Korean woman and include serious assaults along with minor sexual harassments the containers would overflow. If we look closely we pass over much of what has happened, much has been covered over, secretly cultivated and defined as minor.
The church was no exception. We look towards the church when in difficulty. We have great faith in the church and when we see it break down the believers and the devout workers feel great pain and sorrow in their hearts. The efforts to remove the offenders remains but the way the Korean Church responds to the crisis will influence the believers and non-believers and give hope for the future.
God often permits the darkness in our lives and we are faced with pain and humility. We again go in search of God. The most dangerous moments become an opportunity for great change.
Recently we have seen the corruption in the government of our leaders and the errors of respected people in all levels of society. Which enabled us to see the values and basic morals that have been ignored and abused.
The Republic of Korea at this point is full of opportunities. Only when the crisis reached its peak between the North and South did we see the opportunity for dialogue for the first time since the rule of Kim Jong-eun.
The weak and oppressed who hid in silence lifted their heads one by one enabling others to come forward and prepare for change. She concludes the article with a prayer that during this Lent the church which is on the side of the marginalized and poor will look forward to the resurrection of Jesus and the new life of the church, the Korean peninsula and all of us.
Although recently it appears to have lessened, the division in society between the progressives and conservatives has often been violent. Since the church exists in the world, confrontations on many of the social issues are present in the church.
A seminary professor writes in the Catholic Times of this divide and asks the readers on what side are they on. Are you progressive or conservative, left or right? What side is the church on?
With these questions, many will select one of the two as the direction of the church. But is that the reality? Is the church progressive because it opposes the death penalty and conservative because it opposes abortion and contraception?
The church is evangelical only. It judges, chooses and acts on the basis of Jesus Christ and not according to the values of the world. It is neither conservative or liberal, socialist or democratic but on the side of Christ.
Archbishop Helder Camara of Brazil said: "When I give food to the poor they call me a saint when I ask why are they poor, they call me a socialist."
The world loves to give food to the poor but when you try to make a society without the poor you are condemned as a socialist. Pope Francis was acclaimed for the many things he did after becoming pope but also called a Marxist.
The church wants to follow gospel values. It's not against the death penalty because it's progressive but because it promotes the dignity of human life that God has created. It's not against abortion and artificial means of contraception because it's conservative but because of the dignity of the person.
Consequently, members of the church must inquire constantly about who is Jesus and how to follow him.We must question whether what we judge and pursue is truly in accord with gospel values. We can not be sure our thoughts and judgments are evangelical, but the more confident we become the stronger our voice. In prayer, we will find the answers on how to live as Christians.
Christians do not live in a progressive or conservative manner but according to the teaching of Jesus. We need to search for the answers continually. For we are weak human beings and yesterday's answers may not be today's answers. We find the answers in the encounter with God and through prayer.
"I believe nothing can happen that will outweigh the superior advantage of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord" (Philippians 3:8).
Richard Dawkins is a prominent scientist who wrote the book: Selfish Gene, a controversial book which changed the worldview of many who read it. The Catholic Peace Weekly reporter in the Word And Silence column gives us his reaction on reading the book.
Dawkins is provocative, intense, sharp and uncompromising. The reporter purchased a Korean translation some five years ago but was afraid that it would shake his weak faith and never read the book until recently.
In his book The God Delusion: Dawkins sees belief as a delusion, a meaningless, subjective belief. Medically a kind of mental disorder. For him, it is a mental virus and irrational and socially harmful.
After reading the book the aftertaste was not good. Do we have an opinion to refute Dawkins? and started to look.
We have the conflict model: science and religion are always in conflict. The independence model holds they explore separate domains and ask different questions. The dialogue model proposes a relationship between science and religion. There is a common ground in presuppositions, methods, and concepts. In any system that deals with dichotomy, we have blind spots. Almost all human societies have had religion in some form.
Religion exists in a community. The church is a community. The teachings of religion always aimed towards the good of the community and strongly supports the values necessary for the survival and prosperity of society. Religion is institutionalized morality and ethics.
Religion is older than nations and more fundamental. Faith instinct is hidden deep inside the human being. Religion played its part when there were neither police, schools or judges. Early humans in a hunting-gathering society embodied strong social values through religion. All the societies that did not have such a center were eliminated and disappeared.
Today, religion seems to have lost its place at the center of society. Often swept away by power, material, money, and pleasure. However, the more confused the values, the more important is the role of religion that reflects man's historical wisdom and reflection. The value of the common good persists within the community. Love, mercy, spiritual poverty, purity, repentance and fasting are the vitality of religion.
We are in the middle of Lent. A thick fog surrounds us. If faith is not a delusion, it's time for believers to cry together. We need to beat our breasts and repent. "My sacrifice is this broken spirit, you will not scorn this crushed and broken heart" (Psalm 51:17).
A member of the bishops' committee for life matters, writes for the Catholic Peace Weekly on discernment and responsibility for sexual maturity. This week he tells the readers if we had the right understanding of sex we would not have the large numbers of '#Me Too' incidents. He begins by mentioning a cartoon in a pornographic magazine where a woman who has been raped asks for an encore. This, he says, is the absurd kind of message spread by these magazines.
The problem is worldwide but Korea is the world leader in Internet connection speed and Wi-Fi is everywhere. 92 percent of the population are internet users. Pornography is illegal but easily accessed. Men see these kinds of videos repeatedly—what are the results? Women are looking for this kind of violence even though unconsciously. Men can easily commit this kind of crime but what is worse they have no feelings of doing wrong. 'We both enjoyed it what's wrong?' They are punished but their attitudes are not changed. Women become the plaything of their male friends and go along with the relationship.
10 years ago an interview with elementary school children on Korean news, the reporter was told by a fifth-grade girl student that 'yadong' (video porn) viewing was common among the students and they imitate what they see. Their actions are haughty, abusive and filled with foul language.
The reporter asked the children if they knew what 'yadong' is. Some children answer without hesitation: sexual relations are a fun game and cool. After seeing the sex act some want to do it. One of his older classmates did imitate what he saw. The reporter asks: how old? He was in the sixth grade.
The writer laments, if this was true 10 years ago, it is easy to imagine the situation today. Although illegal, Korea is a country with the easiest access, not permissible in countries where it's illegal; many regulations keep it from becoming part of the culture and easily accessed by children.
Pornography brings in money. Not only for the makers but for all the different operations that are dependent on making money from the game of sex: advertising, motels, contraception industry, the sex education industry and even the medical world. Those combatting this understanding of sex as a commodity are few.
He goes on to mention the many aberrations that follow upon this thinking. Revenge porn (non-consensual sexual images of someone, distributed without their consent) Dating has lost its meaning and with your date, below the surface is the understanding, the sexual act will follow.
Sex is not a game. When it becomes so, we have tragedy. Sex needs no rules as long as pregnancy is avoided, responsiblity and morality need not enter. Condoms given free is the thinking of many. The whole world is crying this out. Education and experience should make clear this is the voice of evil. When this is accepted and followed, at first pleasure but at the end comes misery; this is the reason and need for education on the meaning of sex.
