'Happiness and healing' is a topic we hear a lot about in our society. But at the same time society is filled with great suffering. The death of a loved one fills us all with bodily pain and mental suffering. A college philosophy professor writes in a column in the Peace Weekly about losing his parents 3 years ago,within 6 months of each other. The loss was deep and lasting and before he was able to accept the loss, a very close friend died. The death was not expected which made the loss more difficult.
Viktor Frankl in Logotherapy, humans are motivated by
the search for meaning. The columnist shows, according to Frankl, we
find the meaning in three different ways: in what we do, and what we
experience or by the attitude we have toward the unavoidable suffering
in life. There is no way we can prevent our own death or the death of
another, but we can choose our attitude.
death of his friend, a fellow professor, he visited him with his wife
and even at that time he was considerate of us and told us that
because of his weakness he found it difficult to talk. That was a
indication of the thoughtfulness he had for others. Right to the very end
you would see this concern which increased the sadness of those visiting. After his death one easily saw the high regard he
was held by all those that knew him: the students that came to the
funeral rites with tears in their eyes.
those that death could come as a penalty, but they live well and enjoy
life and then you have those like his friend that had so much talent
and doing so much good, and death comes so suddenly. If
they lived longer they could have done so much good and showed
more love to others. The columnist has read all kinds of philosophy books, and not
once has he come across a good answer to his query.
the Mass of the Resurrection in praying for the professor he
did find some consolation. On the 49th day after death one of the students
who received his doctorate with the mentoring of the professor visited
the grave of the professor and offered up his doctoral dissertation. At the sight, the columnist experienced a warm feeling.
With the death of the
ones we love we bury with the one deceased part of ourselves which is
part of the reason for the sadness that overcomes us. However, a part
of the one who has died also remains with us.