"When we have many beautiful words being used, we will have a happy
society." This headline expresses the opinion of a priest in View from
the Ark in the Catholic Times. He reminds us of the last words of
Cardinal Kim before he died: "Thank you, I love you." When he heard
these words for the first time he considered them too common to give
them much attention, but pondering the words now they have taken on a
great deal of meaning. Are there any other words that give more warmth
and move the heart as much? How many times during the day do we express
such feelings? he asks.
The words we use have a great
deal of power. People we admire are generally those who have a
habit of using positive words and being enthusiastic, frequently using words of
hope and encouragement. On the other hand, those who are failures often
express grievances and give up, using all kinds of excuses, which the priest believes is not
by accident. There is a Chinese proverb: "Good clothes keep a person's
body warm and good words keep a person's heart warm." Encouragement,
appreciation, praise--all move the heart. "People move toward the direction in which
they are praised" is an expression often heard. A word of kindness can do a great
deal to one living in darkness.
On
the opposite side,
a word that is uttered without thought can often scar a person for
life.
When we degrade, belittle or abuse another, we are activating hate
within that person and giving them the strength to retaliate.
Nowadays, on the Internet and, particularly on the social networks,
there are a great many
malicious comments and personal attacks which have contributed to
persons killing themselves. The police who have investigated these cases
say they have found that those who are sending out the malicious
content frequently are innocent young people and adults who have good
jobs and
are good citizens, but are oblivious to the harm they are doing.
This is a standing problem that society needs to eradicate, he says.
The words
we use express our personality. They convey what is in our heart
and mind. With words a wise person manifests their dignity and maintains
good relationships with others. As we continue to cultivate our personalities, he urges us to work to refine the words we use.
It is said that a
habit that begins at the age of three will often continue to be a habit at the age of eighty.
Once it becomes a habit, it is difficult to change. That is the reason,
he says, parents have the responsibility to teach their children the
importance of the words we use. For we can sin with our words, causing harm to ourselves, but to others as well.
We
don't see words with our eyes, the priest reminds us, but they do have
shape and can influence lives. Which means we should be
responsible for our words, especially true for those in positions of
authority,
such as politicians who should have the welfare of citizens in mind.
One of our politicians, who repeatedly made the same mistake in his
speeches, was forced to resign. A warning to all of us, the priest
points out.
Words
are like the seed that we plant in the garden. Good words will bear
good fruit, and bad words will bear bad fruit. There are few things as
easy as uttering words, but we should be mindful that with
the ease comes the possibility of easily hurting others. When we use
right and caring words, our society becomes a warmer, happier society.
Are these thoughts unrealistic? he asks. He hopes not.