School violence is believed by many to be one of the causes for the increasing number of suicides in
Korea. In 2011, with the suicide of a student because of school violence,
we all became acquainted with this ever present evil. This is
the topic of an article in the Kyeongyang magazine, written by a Catholic professor who is an
authority in the field.
School
violence has many different aspects: bodily injury, the threat of
violence in person or through cyberspace, or any acts that are
potentially or actually harmful, mentally or emotionally. One of the surveys showed that 35.3
percent of violent incidents were verbal, 16.5 percent involved group bullying,
11.5 percent violence and confinement, 9.7 percent cyber abuse, 9.2
percent taking away possessions, 5.3 percent involved forcing others to do errands, 3.5 percent sexual abuse. Except for cyber abuse, which increased, the rest were similar to the previous year.
Nearly 30 percent of the perpetrators of the
abuse say it was merely a prank, 24 percent say they did not like the person, 10 percent had no reason, 4.5 percent did it to
release stress and vent their resentment.
The
professor asks what can be done? Although violence takes place in the
schools it is not a problem that the school alone can solve. The
violence that we have in society infiltrates the school environment.
Many
of those who are responsible for bullying say that it was only a joke.
This kind of thinking, she says, is the most dangerous because it is the
most difficult to deal with.
Though we have been insensitive to violence in the society for too long, there are those who say we are needlessly sensitive to violence in society. The professor
feels there is a need to give this topic much thought. We need to be
sensitive to any violence that we see in the society. We have violence
in the home, in the school and in the mass media, and have become insensitive to it and consider it a natural part of life.
A
change to the system does not solve the problems that we have in the
school. There has to be in many cases a change in the way we think.
Since my own child is not a bully, many parents say, they feel there is no need for a widespread societal concern. This thinking has to change, for all of us are potential victims of bullying. When
we are an unconcerned spectator we are a perpetrator. We all have to be
participators in doing away with the violence that we see. The
professor quotes from James 4:17: " When a person knows the right thing to
do and does no do it, he sins."
The words that we use
do not only present to others our thoughts and feelings, but form our own thoughts and feelings. Our children's words are very coarse.
Jargon and vulgarity is used often without anything being said; they do not hear words of warmth, encouragement and
words that give life. Parents do not make the effort to correct the
words of the children to the degree that they encourage them to study.
In the schools there is a need on the part of teachers to avoid
using any type of vulgarity or coarseness in speech.
In
conclusion, she finishes with the thought that words contain our values
and our beliefs. The students in school and in families are learning
more from the words they hear than from the written word and the books
they read.