She has been in the work with migrants
for the last eight years, she says. In the past, it was with the heart,
but now it is mostly with the mind. She is not trying to fathom the
workings of the migrant's inner feelings and desires, but is more
interested in helping them get ahead in the business world. It is now my
desire, she says, to help make the life of the migrants understandable
to our citizens.
An important aspect in her approach is to deal
with the conflicted feelings concerning international marriages.
Compared to how it was viewed a few years ago, much as changed--for the
good. It is now something that is accepted as natural, and she is asked
by many of the Christians to introduce some foreign girls to their sons.
She has little difficulty in doing this, but it is another matter to
have these marriages turn out healthy, and the family developing
happily.
Most people have heard stories of international
marriages in which the woman has abandoned her husband and family, left
to find work in a factory to earn money, found a man from her own
country, or has not been faithful. There are many such stories.
Because
of these stories, many have qualms and fears about international
marriages. Our increasingly closely knit world is likely to bring us
more, not less, of these marriages. But there is no need to see this
negatively; we need only open ourselves, without prejudice, to the
different cultures of the world.
If we ask whether the poor women
who come to Korea are of an inferior status, most will answer no. When
we see things that are strange, we should ask for an explanation. When
we see something we don't understand, we should be tolerant and try to
explain our own culture. At times, it is our feeling of superiority in
dealing with the immigrants from the poorer countries that is the
problem.
International marriages can be as happy, she insists, as
any other marriage. It requires getting beyond the financial
difficulties and seeing others with a more open and understanding heart.
We are all citizens of the world, she is fond of repeating, and we all
share its joys and its sorrows. This is not all that difficult. We have
the example of Jesus, who had no prejudice and considered everyone
equal. He is our teacher.
