"Do you know the reason why young couples are reluctant to have children?" "Not Like their parents, they are not confident in taking on the sacrifice required, and weren't especially happy as a child."
We have the lowest birthrate in the world. Something
has to be done: reeducation, change in thinking, and change in society. These were some of the thoughts that came out of a seminar on
family and media, sponsored by the Korean bishops. An article in the
Peace Weekly gives us a brief account of the contents of the seminar.
speaker said that half of the high school girls have no thought about
marriage, and children. Word circulates that college girls will discuss family planning with their neighbors, not something we can easily laugh about. What is meant is they want to know how
much money it will cost to have a child? Parents need to show how
important life is, and raise the children to find happiness, and we will
see a change in the birthrate.
Children do not
consider the grandparents as part of the family, and this is easy to
see. Increase in longevity will see four and five generations living
together, and require healthy mature parents to help educate
children for this reality.
One of the presenters, a
commentator on our popular culture, shows the readers how difficult
it is to see a healthy adult life portrayed in TV dramas. Usually
one out of three dramas has a secret with a birth of a child, these embarrassing details makes the life of the child difficult. We don't have dramas in which the tired, exhausted young people
show trust, and follow with expectation the example of the adults.
does give an example of some programs that give a positive
understanding of the lives of the elderly and she mentions how the
drama received a popular response from all the viewers across all the
generations. She makes a plea for more of this type of drama which will bring change to the thinking of the viewers.
Another presenter showed the importance of dialogue in the family. The professor
talked about communication within the family, and the results from it. Communication allows for intimacy, self respect,
and raises the satisfaction of family life. This becomes the motivating
force for a healthy family life: listening, encouragement, reminisces-- basic elements of communication. He concludes his
remarks hoping the many different kinds of families will begin using
this kind of communication.