The Kyeongyang magazine has an article by a member of a diocesan family bureau on puberty and some lessons gathered from the author's own experience.
His daughter is entering middle school
this year, they had a pizza party to commemorate her first monthly period.
The father to make this a memorable day besides the party, discussed what happened with the daughter.
What did the girl experience,
when did it begin, what did she feel, what did she do with the clothes,
were there other girls she knew who had their first periods... and
similar very intimate questions which they discussed at the party with
the family. He, the father, without any hesitation spoke very naturally
with the daughter and she was at ease with the discussion.
digresses on points of puberty which he explains for the readers. Often
those beginning puberty like to go to bed late and get up late. The
reason is the change in the hormones in the body. It is not
laziness or lack of virtue but what is happening in the body of the child
and the need for parents to understand the changes taking place.
Studies made show persons going through puberty need a little bit over 9 hours of sleep. He lists some of the problems that arise
when deprived: growth of the brain is hampered, difficulties in studies because of memory loss, and suppression of the growth hormone a cause of anxiety and depression.
In Korea sleeping
for 9 hours is difficult. Making the rounds is the myth that four
hours you get your college of choice, with five hours you don't. Students required to leave for school early in the morning and return
late at night is something society should be concerned.
The visual processing center
of the brain is developing and children are conscious of how
they are seen by others and interested in good-looking
celebrities and clothes others are wearing. Interest in piercing their
bodies for jewelry, if not excessive, parents need not be overly concerned,
for it will pass in most cases.
The use of mobile phones
for games and chatting are a concern for parents but he doesn't see
this as a problem if parents keep in mind the reasons for the absorption in
games. The games have a very clear goal with easy steps. They receive intuitive feedback, and it is a challenge they can handle. Games are not bad but they require close attention by the
parents for they are addictive.
Children going trough
puberty don't like to be reminded of this fact. At this time they are becoming independent persons and parents need to help them walk this
not anger your children. Bring them up with the training and instruction befitting the Lord" (Eph. 6:4).
He wonders if he does follow
these commendations from the Scriptures. It is one thing to know this with
the head and another to carry this out in his daily contact with the
children. He ends the article by telling his readers that parenting is difficult.