Not all we do is done with the best of motives, and acknowledging this is healthy. Feelings of superiority are common and can prevent us from being childlike and enjoying a great deal of what comes our way. A dance teacher reveals her struggle to overcome these feelings that were eating away at the opportunity of enjoying a new experience.
column "Daily Life and Faith Life" tells us how a professional dancer
was asked to help out in a performance of modern dance. She was a
teacher of traditional Korean dance and accepted the invitation to
with a choreographer who was preparing for a dance recital and needing
to recruit members. The columnist, seeing her during practice, gave her
high marks for her
openness to a new dance category.
On one occasion, he was
invited to eat with the modern dance company and had the opportunity
to talk to the Korean dance professional. After the meal, while
they were both drinking beer, he asked her if it was difficult for a
teacher of traditional dance to learn the movements of modern dance.
beer she was drinking helped her to speak honestly, she said. She
accepted the invitation to work out with the modern dance company
because of her desire to learn something about a new kind of dance but
she admitted to feeling anxious about it; would she be able to follow
the younger dancers? she wondered. Returning home, however, she
continued to practice.
remember when it happened, but she began to regret that she said yes,
and felt the uneasiness returning. She was even thinking of telling the
choreographer that she would have to give up the practice.
though she was entertaining these thoughts, she enjoyed the dancing. She
always found the movements of the body invigorating and a joy. Why was
she feeling this way? she asked herself. Her whole body was telling her
that before dancing, she had to take over control of her body; she had to
This voice to grow up was not because she was learning a
new type of dance but because of her feelings of superiority. Whenever
the young dance choreographer was giving her instructions, her inner voice
was telling her that she was a professional dancer. When she began to
look deeply into her feelings, the
obstacles to participating disappeared, and she began enjoying the
The columnist wonders how many have given up their
work of service in the parishes precisely because of a superiority
complex. We have to make sure when we are helping others that we are doing
it for the right motive. It's possible that we are servicing others to
be acknowledged for our goodness, our ability, and not doing it out of
love. If this is the case, the columnist concludes, the body will give
up on us.