
A
tale of two brothers and their families and the animosity that
threatened to destroy their village recently appeared in the Catholic
Time's View From the Window. The priest relates that the
brothers, during their poverty-filled early years, were very close, but
at the death of their parents began to fight over the inheritance, each
brother gathering support for their cause from the villagers, the feud soon spreading into the
neighboring villages. Insults and threats followed, setting villager against villager.
At
the beginning of the feud,
the economic conditions of the two families were similar. However, the
younger brother invested in a business in the village that failed, and
everything was lost. He began to drink and raise havoc, which turned
many villagers against him and his family. The
older brother's efforts and good luck, however, enabled him to do well,
Seeing the deteriorating condition of his brother's family, he tried to
help and restore the loving relationship with his brother, but the
scars from the
past were too many. Over the years, meetings were held and some help was
given. It seemed the attempts for a reconciliation were
bearing fruit, but the family of the older brother interfered. Unwilling
to forgive the harm suffered in the past, they criticized him for
helping his brother. The situation had become so bad, it was even
difficult to bring up the subject.
However, a few women
relatives of the older brother secretly continued to help. Knowing the difficulties the younger
brother's family was having, they kept talking about the need for reconciliation, which prompted members of their own family
to attacked them. "Whose side are you on?" they would ask the women. "Have you forgotten what they did
to us? Are they more important than your own family?" Treated
like traitors, they no longer had the courage to speak out.
There
seemed only one remaining hope for peace between the two families: the
children. But after constantly hearing their parent's warnings such as
"Don't play with them, don't talk with them," they developed the same
prejudices as their parents-- and the
vicious circle continued. The children of the young
brother, because of their impoverished lifestyle, were ridiculed by the
older brother's
children. And the older brother's prominent status in the village,
compared with that of their father's, caused
the children of the younger brother to seek revenge: scrawling graffiti
on
walls, throwing stones and breaking windows. The disapproving elders
would simply take care of the mess and punish the children, but this did
nothing to change the feelings of the two families.
Despite
the respect the older brother received from the villagers, the blemish
on the family of the younger brother's behavior made them feel
uncomfortable. The
young brother seemed not to remember or preferred not to think of the
help he and his family had received, or to remember the wrongs he had
done, but thought it was all his brother's fault. Becoming more arrogant
and erratic, he began to move his family from place to place. getting
the attention of everyone. The sympathy many villagers once had for the
family quickly disappeared, and disdain was all that was left.
Although,
occasionally,
small sums of money would be given to the younger brother in the hope
that he would turn his life around, it was not to be. He began carrying a
knife, threatening to
kill and to set fire to the village, frightening everybody.
How does their mother from heaven look upon
her sons now? the priest wonders. Is the current situation the only one possible? Is
there no way out of this mess? Sometimes, all we can do, the priest says, as he ends this sad tale, is to offer up our prayers for them.