"Look here, do you want to play for a while? I will make it cheap, there are two you can choose from." A journalist on news gathering for the paper writes about his visit to a red-light district and the greeting he received from the pimp.
"I am just passing through, are you open for business even during the day?" He asks, refusing the invitation. He was offered the girls who were in their twenties, sitting in the porch of their place of work, scantily clad and with plenty of make-up, staring vacantly at the journalist.
Price for satisfying the desire of the man is about 66 dollars but over half of the money is shared with the owner of the establishment and the pimp. The money they receive often goes to pay off debts they have incurred for clothes and cosmetics. Buying a woman for sex is just another of our distorted consumer values.
In the Catholic Times' article on the issue, the journalist gives us an example of why the situation goes from bad to worse. He found a woman who left and began a new life. She was in her middle 30s, brought up Catholic. At age 8, her father died, and her mother put the children in the care of the grandparents and left the family.
The family was in debt; she didn't have much schooling, and without education, she found getting a job impossible. She did get a part-time job which was not enough to take care of her needs and help her family. Room Salon was her only hope; and told she could earn more than 2,500 dollars a month.
Reality was different. She received money in advance for living expenses and a place to stay; these became her shackles. She was forced to have cosmetic surgery on her whole body, paying off this debt she ended up in the red-light district of the city. Even when sick, on certain days she would have over ten clients. If the debt was not paid she would be beaten by the owner and reviled. Her body weakened, and her mental faculties were a mess. With counseling, and overcoming difficulties, and with the help of the police she left, but her situation was serious.
" I was a woman of the street, and this road which I chose, destroyed my life." She fought bitterly to change her life and the image she had of herself. With counseling, and training, she received certification and a job. She was one of the lucky ones, says the journalist. Government programs do not offer the money, and the return to the past is common.
She
dreams of a society where the past does not prevent one from living
in the present when changes are made. She finds her
religion a great help in making the transition and the words of Jesus to
those who wanted to stone the woman caught in adultery. The Journalist
finishes the article with a hope that those who read the article will
be ready to help those in similar circumstances. We are all members of God's family.
Recently the agreement between Korea and Japan on the 'comfort women'
issue is not appreciated by many in Korea. Comfort women was the
euphemism used for women who were forced into sexual slavery by the
Japanese Army before and during the Second World War.
Both Catholic papers had
editorials and a number of long articles on the issue; all very much
against the statement that was published by the press. Simply stated:
Japanese prime minister would apologize and show sorrow, a foundation
would be establish to help those who were victims of the atrocities,
over 8 million dollars would be conveyed, the issue will finally and
irreversibly be settled and they will reach a mutual agreement
concerning the statue in front of the embassy. (A statue of a young
Korean woman that sits in a chair opposite the Japanese Embassy in Seoul
symbolizing all the Korea women sex slaves of the Japanese soldiers)
Peace and Justice
Committee of the Bishops' Conference made clear that the agreement
reduces the infringement of basic human rights and a war crime into a
diplomatic issue between two countries and needs to be renegotiated.
The agreement placed economics
and diplomacy ahead of dealing with infringement of basic human rights and
seeking the truth. Organized crime was overlooked,
and again trampling on the dignity of the victims who
are still living.
The committee sees the
agreement ignoring Japanese legal responsibility, and failure to
recognize it as a crime of the country. The agreement was between two
country's diplomatic
agencies without any communication with the victims and not passed as a
resolution and agreement of the two parliaments. Japan has maintained
it has apologized and paid compensation but it never has taken
responsibility as a country for the wrongdoing.
Those in agreement and those opposed have
many other issues that enter the thinking, which are not on the table
but will determine a persons views on the settlement of the comfort
women's issue.
Words
used: “final and irrevocable”, leave little room to
pursue other historical disputes is a bone of contention among those
opposed to the agreement. We continue to have demonstrations and
division on this issue but ignoring the living victims of the crime perpetrated, and failing to understanding their feelings will guarantee the continual division and loathing at what was done.
Material development with all the good it has brought us may be
distancing us from nature. Books, computers, smart phones and man made
instruments can blind us to the world of nature, and we don't know fully the
results of this alienation from the natural, and what it will do to the
mental and spiritual makeup of the individual.
Imagination expands a child's vision, and openness to the world. By means of
imagination the child begins to ask questions. Can I exist in this
world in a different way? How would I feel? What can I find and create?
Within community, imagination helps a person grow to maturity and
enables one to give their special gifts to society. During the years of
growing up we are continuing to develop our imagination.
Peace Weekly spirituality columnist recommends the dream
world of the child be encouraged, and the need to draw out the child to
express colors, sounds and touches experienced. Concern is not with interpreting the dreams but to exam and deal with the
feelings that are aroused and help them to speak about their dreams.
Studies
show that 80% of the dreams children have are about animals which show
their relationship with nature in the wild. Not only concern for
material and personal matters is important but life is filled with
interesting and inviting opportunities, and children are acquainted with
this. Children do not grow up with only what they experience in the
home.
The world of the imagination is what helps the
child to mature. They should be encouraged to experience internal
reality to the degree they experience their external reality. William
Blake says: "But to the eyes of man of imagination, nature is
imagination itself."
We are a part of nature. Children
don't just examine nature but all their senses are in mutual
interaction with nature. They don't only see a bird on the chimney top
but their arms move and body feels lighter. They hear the sound of the
wind, and the bird's song; trees are to be climbed, water is drumming; they want to run into the water. They see themselves one with the
animals. Rain brings to the child a sense of loss, the sun warmth and
hope, storms bring fear to the child. Imagination, Body, Emotions and
Nature are influencing the child complicatedly and charmingly,
interacting with the child. Children need to experience
the four of these, when one of them is ignored, the other three are
in some way damaged.
"I
think we have exploited nature too much," Pope Francis said, "Thanks be to God that today there are
voices, so many people who are speaking out about it." We need to find again a harmony with nature and deepen it daily.
I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to them.
I’ve learned that no matter how much I care,
some people just don’t care back.
I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust
and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life
but who you have in your life that counts.
I’ve learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes.
After that, you’d better know something.
I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself
to the best others can do,
but to the best you can do.
I’ve learned that it’s not what happens to people,
It’s what they do about it.
I’ve learned that no matter how thin you slide it,
there are always two sides.
I’ve learned that you should always have loved ones with loving words.
It may be the last time you’ll see them.
I’ve learned that you can keep going
long after you think you can’t.
I’ve learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done
When it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.
I’ve learned that there are people who love you dearly,
but just don’t know how to show it.
I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry,
but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to
doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.
I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is,
they’re going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.
I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken,
the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who we become.
I’ve learned that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other.
And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.
I’ve learned that sometimes you have to put the individual
ahead of their actions.
I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing
and see something totally different.
I’ve learned that no matter the consequences,
those who are honest with themselves go farther in life.
I’ve learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours
by people who don’t even know you.
I’ve learned that even when you think you have no more to give,
when a friend cries out to you,
you will find the strength to help.
I’ve learned that writing,
as well as talking,
can ease emotional pains.
I’ve learned that the people you care most about in life
are taken from you too soon.
I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice
and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.
I’ve learned to love
and be loved.
I’ve learned…
The recent issue of the Kyeongyang
magazine had an article by a professor of English Literature on the
above poem "I've learned." She believes words give life,and poetry
is the heart of words which she enjoys investigating.
She
begins by telling the readers the above poem has been attributed to others
and she mentions Charles de Foucauld (1858-1916) a Frenchman who began
his career in the military, and feeling great skepticism changed his
life around, and at the age of 43 became a priest and went back to
Africa. Because of the drama of his life, she mentions, it helped to
make the poem popular but it was written by an Arabian poet Omer
Washington.
Love
she concludes is the beginning and end of the poem. Love is the only
thing that will overcome chaos and disagreement, sadness and despair,
wounds and betrayal. Love is something we have to learn over and over
again, and she hopes it will be the road that her readers will be
walking in the new year.
In Window from the Ark column, a priest who worked for a
missionary organization of the Vatican while visiting an area of South East
Asia, saw for the first time the tapioca plant. Tapioca is extracted from the cassava root that is native to
South America and is now grown in many parts of the world. The starch
is used in many different ways, food, fuel and even in the making of
alcohol.
Africa is a supplier. East Asia supplies 30 %
of the world's production, which has changed the way we are world.
And we find ourselves continually adapting to changes in our environment, not always
correctly.
With genetic changes in the make up of life we
have adaptation to our environment and evolution. This adaptation
allows the individual and species to evolve but also become a monster. Cancer
is an example of an outside influence on the cell that turns it into a
monster. The columnist mentions a movie in which the earth seen from its perspective: humans have become a virus to the earth. If we don't
stop the damage we are doing to the earth it will be the death of one or
the other.
He meditates on this scenario for this time
of the year. What is the kind of world we Christians envisage God wants, and how do we prepare for it? Like a life organism it would
be a healthy and harmonious earth if nutrients were sent to all
corners of the earth and especially those in most need. It would include respect
and love for all and avoidance of pride and egoism in the care of all,
the way Jesus showed us.
The
world is losing the fire for this love. Instead we
have extreme greed, and fear as reasons for our lack of cooperation. Failure to solve the problems we face, increase the suffering
of the weak, and inflict pain on ourselves and society.
Law which is to
protect the weak is on the side of the strong and the gap between them,
continues to increase. Instead of ridding ourselves of the injustices in society we make it worse. Harmony and a win-win approach is not
part of our thinking: appropriate at this time of year.
Church as mission, and disciples of Jesus are to be
with those hurting, the poor, to share with them, and to live the
good news. This is not a question of morality but of life. Cooperation
and harmony breaking down in society is a serious malady that torments the earth. " Let the heavens and the earth listen, that they
may be witnesses against you. I have set before you life and death,
blessing and curse. Therefore, choose life that you and your descendants
may live" (Deut. 30: 19).
In the Peace Weekly, Question and Answer column, a reader asks: does religion require unconditional belief? A young person who had been looking around for a religion found Catholicism to his liking, but those that introduced him to religion, when he had questions, repeated what the apostle Thomas was told by Jesus: blessed who believe without seeing. Since he has a desire to understand and study, and go deep into what he believes, he wants to know if this is wrong for a Catholic?
Priest columnist answers that the young person has the correct attitude and on the right path. St Thomas, the apostle, despite all that he saw and heard still doubted, and it was this that Jesus was addressing.
Religious people are searching and will do so until death. Spiritual mentors often say: faith is receiving answers but at the same time asking questions. We continue to ask questions and look for answers.
Life is a school always open 24 hours a day, where we learn about love, forgiveness,honesty, fear, patience, adaptation and the like: we are learning to become human. Like the butterfly that sheds its cocoon we leave infancy to become a mature adult.
A person who studies is like a mental wanderer, a person on a voyage of discovery. We see this often in the Scriptures. Abraham in his old age became a wanderer, and we have Jesus sending his disciples on a journey. When we are closed to new ideas and a deeper understanding of our Lord's teachings, we put obstacles in the way to spiritual growth and the movements of the Spirit.
When we close ourselves off from new thoughts and ideas we punish ourselves and even when prayer is devotedly attended, a person loses the joy of life. Many who are sick and near death have written great pieces of literature because they were mentally alert and their hearts still searching, and on fire.
He concludes with the words from Sirach."Wisdom instructs her children and admonishes those who seek her. He who loves her loves life; those who seek her out win her favor. He who holds her fast inherits glory; wherever he dwells, the Lord bestows blessings" Sirach (4:11- 13 ).
We have moved into a New Year, and according to the wisdom from ancient Korea each person becomes one year older but with a twist, young people add a year but the old, subtract: one year from life. As a society, we are getting older writes a history professor in the Peace Weekly, and many meet the new year with sadness.
Life begins slowly, with age it gets faster: true, also of countries, beginning with development, but followed by infirmity and collapse. Speed in our lives doesn't allow us to reflect, and we became careless. We look forward to a new year and hope for change.With the start of the new millennium, we experienced great euphoria, and we had a baby boom but shortly after a financial slump, and unemployment caused suffering. This was true of other countries where we had Lone Wolf millennium terrorism.
The lunar calendar tells us many things and in 2006, we had the year of the two springs, a very rare occurrence. In that year, we had a leap month in July, which made for a long year. The number of marriages increased over the previous year by 16,630, and the year of the pig 2007, a favorable year for births; we had 45,000 more births than the previous year. This year is the election year, and we will have many messiahs appearing.
Steve Jobs in his commencement talk to the students of Stanford University in 2005 quoted from something he had read: "If you live each day as if it was your last you'll be right. I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today? And whenever the answer has been 'No' for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something." The professor recommends to his readers this as a healthy approach to a way of living each day fully.
Yi Sun-sin the Korean Admiral is the professor's example of a person who overcomes his own desire to do what was necessary in his situation. It was at the battle of Myeongnyang Strait where he called all his staff officers and ship captains: " He who seeks his death will live and he who seeks his life shall die." Under impossible odds, he was victorious.
He concludes his column with a desire for himself and readers to begin the new year in the way Steve Jobs and Admiral Yi looked upon the work they were to face. We should see this year as the last one and make sure that we live to do all the things that we want and need to do before the New Year of 2017, and not lose time with trivialities.
