Trauma from Bullying

In the latest issue of the Catholic Times, a special feature was an article on school violence, covered also in an editorial. Recently, the seriousness of school violence has been re-examined as some athletes, celebrities and well-known people have made known the bullying they received as children.

School violence (academic violence) is shaking up Korean society. Confessions and revelations of victims of school violence have made the news daily and don't want to stop. The disclosure of new facts and the dispute over the truth between the victims and those identified as perpetrators are pouring into major media sources.

The fact that most school violence is known more than 10 years after it occurred means that the wounds in the heart are difficult to erase and remain a long time;  easy to understand the need to hear an apology to heal the pain

Students who are victims of school violence often cannot get over their experience even after they become adults due to low self-esteem and depression. One authority in the field said, "If you get unfair violent treatment from the outside, you will have trauma, which is an unhealed wound, and because you remember it vividly from childhood, you want revenge." The heart has no statute of limitations.

This is the reason school violence is serious since tends to instill feelings of retaliation in victims and produce other acts of violence. Consequently, families and schools need to accompany those who have been bullied with personal attention on a level that they can understand.

Victims will continue to expose celebrities' past school violence. Those identified as perpetrators flee the public eye, announcing their retirement because of strong public criticism.

However, experts also express concern about school violence perpetrators taking steps to bury themselves. The opinion is that protecting victims should be the top priority, more important than the punishment of the perpetrator is their guidance. One lawyer said: "There is a positive aspect that school violence disclosure is a great comfort to the victims but the victims can in this situation become the perpetrator again and the violence repeats."  
 
Christianity is essentially a religion that teaches peace, reconciliation, and forgiveness as core values. It is sad to see the cases of school violence that stimulate people's interest and curiosity in the world with the lament: "What's wrong with the world?"

The role of families and religious schools should set a better example for preventing school violence. In fact, there is little school violence in religious schools, but efforts to restore relationships between both perpetrators and victims should continue.

From a Closed to an Open World

 

A permanent member of the Christian Life Community has an article in the Kyeongyang magazine on moving from a closed world to an open world.

He mentions a Gallup report made among the religious people of Korea from 1984-2014 which showed the majority were looking for peace of mind and heart. Among these were many who didn't want to watch the news. They preferred hearing a good uplifting talk or listening to music which gave them a feeling of peace.

This is similar to the talk in Korean society about 'healing' heard often. With the rise of competition considered as a virtue by society, we have stress and the desire for healing. Is this not the reason for the ongoing search for peace.

One European sociologist said with the appearance of neoliberalism we have a large number of cases of depression. Because of competition many rather than trying to solve the problems in society try to build up their capacity to fit in and find that they are not able to do so, consequently the feeling of failure and depression.

Since each believes the answer will be found from within oneself we have the increase of New Age Spirituality where each becomes absorbed in their personal development. The writer finds this assessment of the situation right on.

"Our redemption has a social dimension because God, in Christ, redeems not only the individual person but also the social relations existing between men. To believe that the Holy Spirit is at work in everyone means realizing that he seeks to penetrate every human situation and all social bonds: The Holy Spirit can be said to possess an infinite creativity, proper to the divine mind, which knows how to loosen the knots of human affairs, even the most complex and inscrutable." (The Joy of the Gospel #178)

Love of God that is not only a  subjective feeling requires our neighbor and the world in which we concretely live this love. God's love is experienced in the world. When we don't have the proper relationship with God we will not have a proper relationship with others and the world. This is revealed often in the Scriptures.

When we become the center of all our judgments on what is good and evil and try to satisfy this appetite we call this a sinful situation. We become the center of all action, God is absent. When living as if there is no God to be revered and seeing neighbors not as brothers but as rivals, opponents to be subjugated, and objects that provide what is needed to fathom the world, this is called a broken world. God's creation order and right relationships are broken.

Jesus came to put the right order back into the relationship. This brings happiness into our lives. History shows us how strong personal desires are in determining what is done. Each one's desires compete fiercely,  sometimes closing one's eyes and justifying any means.

Christians try to break away from their personal desires in a closed world to an opened one and try to lead others to do the same. That is our mission and we must value this call and be strong in carrying out what is entailed. We need to break down the values given to wealth, honor, and power and replace them with those that Christians have been given.

Christians need to have faith in God's love for the world and hope for an open world and invite everybody to participate.

Routine in Life

 

Due to Corona 19, the space in which we move is restricted to the room or house in which we live, spending a lot of time alone. Many try to manage and fill the time with meaningful activities. A pastor writing in the Eyes of the Believer column of the Catholic Times introduces us to the book Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod and his 6 step morning routine.

 

The steps are called Life S.A.V.E.R.S: Silence, Affirmation, Visualization, Exercise, Reading Writing. This is practiced repeatedly and regularly every day, ranging from studying foreign languages to small acts such as drinking 1 liter of water or folding blankets. These become the morning 'routine'.

"Routine"originally referred to habitual behavior of athletes to keep in shape, but recently it is continuous movements or actions repeated every day." Routines are habits, not boring, that allow control in the way one spends their time meaningfully for a better daily life since there is a sense of peace and achievement, in controlling your daily life. 

Above all routines are becoming a means of revealing one's identity. It reveals what you like, what kind of daily life you try to keep, and what you consume, showing where you are different from others.

For example, people who are concerned with the environment use Eco bags and refuse to receive plastic bags or disposable containers. The act of 

protecting and preserving the environment in everyday life when it becomes a routine, persons show their identity as an environmental guardians to save the groaning earth.

 

Another example, in the morning, many people read to cultivate knowledge for self-development. Some believers who wake up early in the morning read or transcribe the Bible every day, and spend time praying. These routines represent an identity as a believer.

Even in the Corona situation, believers who appear at the dawn Mass of the parish continue to do so because it has become routine for them.

 

Among the believers, he introduces an elderly person who is approaching his nineties. He has been coming out every morning to Mass for a long time and comes at least two hours in advance to make the way of the cross in the churchyard. It doesn't matter whether it snows or rains. For him, the routine is a joy. Maybe that's why he is so healthy and has a very good memory that everyone envies.

 

Having lived half his life as a businessman and poet, he now lives happily, dedicating the rest of his life to God. The priest will next year on his ninety birthday celebrate Mass for him. After all, isn't our daily routine what reveals our foremost self-identity and for a believer, the routine lived as "Child of God"? If the routine of faith life is  naturally practiced in our daily lives, we become missionaries who testify to God's word anytime, anywhere.

What is Meant by Fairness?

 

In the column of the Catholic Times on the Social Gospel, a priest answers the question that a believer asks: " I also sympathize with the thinking on Justice and the practice of love. But isn't it difficult to look at society from this perspective? In a capitalist society, competition is inevitable. To win in competition isn't that fair?

 

■ Controversy over fairness

Everyone wants to work hard and succeed, as in the American and Korean dream. But the controversy in our society today is fairness. Do we have fairness in our social system with wrong practices and irregularities? Do we have an even field in which to dream? The inequality continues to increase. We continue to have dissent on university entrance exams, education, employment, medical care, income, and welfare, etc. The Corona 19 pandemic has just intensified the problems.

Does this controversy arise because society is unfair? Of course, competition and culling are definitely a phenomenon and process of a capitalist society. However, the beginning of the problem is that fairness in Korean society is evaluated by competition, competence, and rewards. The Fourth Industrial Revolution and the new future will force us to intensify competition. The essence of the problem is the question of whether meritocracy is really fair. This is because the starting line and competitiveness itself are not fair: family, growth environment, stability, and economic power are different.

■ What is necessary for fairness

Getting rewards for your sweat and work, and applying fair standards to everyone, are the basic elements of fairness. The problem is that this becomes capability-based and does not reflect structural inequality, what was handed down from parents, and environmental factors. For example, the recent education gap caused by non-face-to-face classes for students has become a problem. Can we say that the results are fair when there are students who study with private tutors, private education, in ideal surroundings, and students who have to study in their small homes with poor conditions and difficult circumstances? Is that fair?

■ Community and love of neighbor based on fairness

Bill Gates, one of the world's richest people, was asked about his success and said, "I'm just lucky, and I'm responsible for reducing inequality." Competition is definitely inevitable. But with the competition, we need brotherly love, maturity, and humility. Humility is not the arrogance of ignoring social solidarity and community and ignoring those who are less fortunate. Humility turns away from the harsh success ethics that divide society and leads us to generous community life. (Michael Sandel, Tyranny of Merit (The illusion of fairness) Furthermore, it is the love of neighbors, the dignity of human nature, and the commandment of God.

The Catholic Church declares community and love of neighbor, the most important foundation for fairness, not capability. It also teaches that fairness should be realized through sharing, the universal purpose of goods, more considerate assistance and a choice for the weak, solidarity with others, the principle of the community-oriented common good, and the principle of human dignity: I am precious and others are precious. Here, brotherly love, the sincerity of faith  help us to live this kind of life.

"The commandment of love in the gospel awakens Christians to the deepest meaning of political life...The goal for believers is to build community relationships between people. The Christian view of political society puts the value of a community, which is the epitome of social life and a form of daily life, at the top of its agenda." (Summary Social doctrine, paragraph 392).

Desire for a Nuclear-free Korean Peninsula

In the Catholic Peace Weekly Diagnosis of the Times Column, an environmentalist writes about his experience of 35 years working in the field and the changes that have taken place. In the West, topics that were of great concern but were of little interest in Korea are gradually attracting attention.

For example, the whale protection movement has been very intense in North America and Europe for more than 20 years since the 1970s, becoming a symbol of the Western environmental movement. In Korea, whale protection issues drew keen attention in the wake of the 2005 Ulsan World Whaling Commission's international conference and the release of the aquarium dolphin Jedol to the ocean in 2013. 

The same is true of ocean dumping of land waste such as factory wastewater, sewage sludge, food waste, etc. Korea joined the London Convention in 1993, but for a long time using exceptions, millions of tons per year were dumped in the East and West Sea. Ocean dumping has ceased since 2014.  

The anti-fur movement had a strong opposition image in the 1980s and 1990s, in which European activists sprayed blood from fur farms onto models at fur fashion shows, saying, "What kind of fashion show is it with slaughtered animal skins?"  

In Korea, fur consumption was the world's highest, up until just before the IMF in 1997, accounting for three to four pages of advertising in the major daily newspapers every day. The anti-fur movement received great attention and now, no matter how cold, it is rare seeing a person wearing fur. In his case, preparing for his wedding, he put the phrase "Don't wear fur clothes" on the wedding invitation.

The non-asbestos movement has a slightly different aspect. In Europe, asbestos was banned in the 1990s, and in Korea, asbestos was banned only in 2009, so there is still a lot of asbestos left in schools, hospitals, and general housing. With asbestos factories leaving for Indonesia and other countries the problems continue and in solidarity with other Asian countries continue to speak about the damage done to society and the country. Instead of simply following the environmental movement of the West, they are questioning the responsibility of asbestos factories that were kicked out of Europe.

What he envied during his business trips to Europe in the 1990s and early 2000s was seeing the large pinwheel of wind power generators running in many different places. Wind power generators on the Dutch coast were considered symbols of advanced countries. The first offshore wind generator built on the sea that he visited was in Newcastle Port in England in 2001. He was greatly impressed. A newspaper article: "If all the wind in the nearby sea was turned into energy, it can supply electricity to entire Europe." This gave him confidence that "sea wind power generation is an alternative to nuclear power."

Over the past decade, wind farms have also been established in Korea. However, they have been perceived by some as an environmental problem that damages beauty and causes noise. Last year and this year, offshore wind farms began to be promoted and operated in Korea both in the West and East Sea.
 
Solar power plants in large-scale solar facilities in parts of Korea are also Eco-friendly energy sources. We hope the Green New Deal's offshore wind power generation and sunlight development policies continue to be carried out. Furthermore, on both sides of the demilitarized zone, he hopes the two Koreas will install in the Yellow Sea and West Sea solar and wind power generating plants to help in the climate crises and work towards a nuclear-free united Korean Peninsula.

The Church Needs to Speak for the Young

 

A Kyeongyang magazine article by a humanity scholar wants the Church to wake up to the problems with the youth in society. In his eyes, the church does not see the young people and the crises they face.

Believers who go to Mass, devout in their religious life, he wonders whether they are conscious of the absence of the young from the church community. With the shortage of young people, the few that remain are often teaching two Sunday school religious classes, and this is not something rare.

The thinking of many is that the efforts necessary to prepare for college at least during their 3rd year are such that they can excuse themselves from church attendance without fault. Many parents are also of the same opinion. This is easy to understand. However, once they do enter college many never return to church. It's like the salmon that leaves the rivers for the ocean they never go back to the river. The church is filled with elders, no feeling of a crisis, and yet are there any greater problems the church needs to face?

His wife received word from a friend that their son passed the civil servants exam and with joy passed on the news. Both his wife and the writer congratulated them on the news; they were truly happy for the family. The son is now opened to getting married and preparing for the future.

The Korean Catholic Church ironically grew greatly in numbers when the church began to speak out when democracy,  human rights, and the dignity of the citizens were being trampled. Many kept their eyes shut and mouths closed. The church became a sanctuary for many and a means of hope and courage to many. What is the church saying about the problems facing the young?

When he was a student no worries about jobs even while in school they were able to find work. Dating and romance were part of school life. The young today are dealing with a completely different situation, they have to live with envy.  The majority of society has little concern in looking for ways to reverse the situation.

He has two boys whose life materially has been much easier than his own upbringing. However, they have faced fierce competition in their schooling and worries about work. They don't find hope from their parents, having to learn about the difficulties of life at an early age.

We need not be concerned with the absence of the young people from the church nor overly concern for their religious education. This is the time to talk with them, listen to them, and help them realize their smallest of dreams. Make the society in which we live open to the plight of the young. The church needs to see how it has been blind to the problems of the young and begin to redress its role with courage, encouragement, and a strong voice speaking out for their concerns.

They are not only the objects of the church's teaching but persons who need the church's support and not concerned with their absence. Once they lose all hope of help from the church they will completely leave the church They are hurting, in crisis, we need to feel this pain and it is not a choice.

Are the young people coming to church? That is not the question we should be asking. This is a time for the prophets to speak out loud and strong about the contradictions in society and the greed all around. This is no time to reconsider what is to be done but to begin doing something. This is the time for all of us to ask God for ways to give strength to the young.

Hate the Sin and not the Sinner

In the Catholic Times a lawyer writes in Eyes of the Believer column on the topic:  Hate the sin and not the sinner.

A few days ago, TV news reported the child abuse incident at a daycare center and showed the same video several times. A young female teacher picked up a large sponge pillow, turned it to the side, and hit a three or four-year-old child hard. The child fell to the floor. From the teacher's perspective, it must have been because the child did something wrong, but it was a lack of sympathy for the child.

The next scene of the news showed the victim's mother crying and appealing for severe punishment in front of a court where the teacher was arrested for child abuse. If his grandson had been abused like that at a daycare center, he would have been resentful of course. However, he felt a little uncomfortable in that scene, perhaps because of his profession as lawyer defending the wicked. He would have preferred that the daycare center solve the problem.
 

His mother use to say often: You hate sin, but don't hate people. If you hate people more than you hate sin, you will lose your sympathy and be no different from the wicked.

That's the case with the news report. It doesn't seem necessary to show the teacher hitting the child repeatedly. It was read as a selfish intention to increase ratings by repeatedly showing stimulating scenes to viewers. Selfishness is the opposite of compassion.
 

We seem to have a kind of pleasure in uncovering other people's faults,  making them known, and punishing them. By the way, is there nothing wrong with us? The lyrics of the folk song 'One and 500 Years' are now brought to mind. "I find it difficult to live in this unkind world with its lack of compassion."

 

There is a vicious cycle in which the daycare center teacher fails to embrace the child with a generous heart to correct the child, and society calls out harsh punishment for the teacher's actions, and the media uses it for their business. A vicious circle, not a virtuous cycle.

Two years ago, on behalf of a terrible killer, a petition was filed with the court,  that the death penalty was unconstitutional. A young man who graduated from a  prestigious university, suffered from various delusions, brutally killed his mother from  "an order from within," and even chased his father to the master bedroom and killed him. The Bishops' Justice and Peace Committee began the constitutional trial with the intention that instead of cursing the pariah, the death penalty, should be abolished. It's because you hate sin but not the sinner.

The Hindu scripture Bhagavad Guitars teaches that people must escape the yoke of "I" to be saved. There are several things on the road. On the Christian path of wisdom  we are flawed and finite, but realize we are children of God. The path of abandonment is to put down the desire to achieve the results of our acts but do what has to be done— the path of devotion to God and neighbor.

We have to get out of the bondage to the  "I" and break the vicious circle of hate that the whole society is slowly falling into. In order to do so, it is important to realize that wicked people and adults are all children of God, so you have to have compassion:  you hate sin but not the sinners.