Child Abuse Its Reality And Counter Measures

In the recent issue of Catholic Peace Weekly, the abuse of children was examined and mentioned was made of possible remedies. A serious issue in countries all over the world.

A 9-year-old elementary school student was put in a suitcase by his mother as corporal punishment, lost consciousness, and brought to the emergency room of a hospital but failed to revive him.  Another nine-year-old elementary school student was found by residents, who escaped from home barefooted because of the abuse of parents. The face and body were filled with bruises and burn marks. Children's abuse news, reported one after another, is difficult to read.  It is hard to believe how this abuse can go on but it is the reality. 102 children died from parental abuse and neglect in the last three years from 2016.
 
In 2018, 3,532 cases of child abuse were reported to child protection agencies. Of these, 2,604 cases (73.4%) were actual child abuse. 28 children died.
 
The place where child abuse mostly occurred was (80.3%) in the family. (8.5%) of child abuse occurring in schools, institutions that care for and educate children. From the statistics, 7 out of 10 child abusers are biological parents, and 80% of the abused places are homes. Child abuse is another name for domestic violence.

It has been a little over 20 years since Korean society began to punish domestic violence. Laws against domestic violence came into force in July 1998. The perception that domestic violence is not merely a family fight but a crime has established itself in society. It took another 16 years to recognize the seriousness of child abuse and protect the abused child within the law.

According to child abuse news, it seems that it will take more time to change the perceptions some people have: 'Why do persons concern themselves on the way I want to raise my child?'   And 'The child needs corporal punishment to grow up correctly' and  'A beating helps one harden their heart' .This being the situation, the Ministry of Justice recently announced that it will promote the legislation to ban child corporal punishment by revising civil law.

Experts pointed out that although it is a late decision, it is a fortunate decision, but in order to prevent and prevent child abuse, it is necessary to more clearly punish the perpetrators and to maintain and supervise families with child abuse. Current laws and policies focus on maintaining the family rather than punishing the perpetrators, thus increasing the secondary and tertiary damages. Even if you separate the victim from the abusive parent, most of the time, if the parent asks for forgiveness and asks for goodwill, the child returns to the parent. The separation period is also short. Even in the 2018 statistics, 82% of children who were abused returned to the family.

From the child's point of view, it is not easy to have the  parents punished or let them leave. "Violence for the victims of domestic violence is not practical because children can be better off at home with a mother or father who beats than living in a nursery or facility." It's a common opinion of experts.
 
In a family where child abuse has occurred, children and parents should be separated immediately, and psychological treatment for children and counseling education for parents should be conducted. In addition, when a child returns to the home, supervision by an expert must be continuously carried out. However, in reality, it is not well done due to the lack of experts and dedicated personnel and budget. Although counselors regularly make phone calls to check or visit their homes to supervise them, it is difficult to grasp the exact reality because there are many loopholes. Moreover, as Corona 19 spread, the problems multiplied.

The best way to reduce and prevent child abuse is a concern for our neighbors and the spirit of reporting. Child abuse is a top priority in Western society sensitive to child human rights, reports of child abuse are common, but this is still foreign to Korean society. Even when there is a loud voice next door, it is often overlooked because it is considered interfering in another family's life. However, the common view of experts is that it is possible to save a child's life and a family when they hear yelling and screaming from a neighboring house. 

The Elderly In Korea During the Pandemic

"Grandma, stay home and rest."

These words addressed to the mother of the Peace Columnist in the Catholic Peace Weekly is the topic for the article. She had died years earlier but in her later years, her age was the reason she was told to rest although very active in the church. 

Once waiting to take the bus to the cemetery with the other parishioners she was told that there was no need for her to go. On one occasion she went with a basin, broom, and mop to clean the church's bathroom, she heard the words: "The young people will do it." The writer also chimed in: "It's all concern for you, mother. You have to be careful about your health." Her concern for the community was repudiated. Her spirit because of this was often depressed. Older parishioners, because of age, face discrimination.

He hears her words running through his head often during the present pandemic. Elderly people (65 years of age or older) were parishioners at risk if infected with Corona19 and need not attend Sunday Mass. This was printed in the Sunday Bulletin. Suddenly the writer realized he was over 65. He had no problems and was not hurting others, so he continued attending Mass. The following week, the word "over 65" was omitted, and it was written only as an elderly person. Now, the elderly as the subject disappeared altogether, but for a time the words "over 65 years old" lingered with him.

According to the coronavirus statistics (2020.5.25), the fatality rate is 2.83% in the 60s, 10.99% in the 70s, and 26.27% in the 80s. Excluding the elderly is understandable to protect the elderly and the community. Everyone accepted this in their own way. It wasn't a step that prevented them from coming to church, so those who could go went with caution. But to the writer, something was not right.

Twenty years ago, an elderly believer in a Baptist church was killed in a traffic accident while going to worship at dawn. In a nearby church, a priest in his 40s, during his sermon, told the elderly people attending Mass that they need not come because it was dangerous. This could easily be understood as a mother's concern for her child but some elderly believers did have trouble with the words of the priest. They did not hear the words as caring but rather alienating them.

Physically disabled people have more problems moving about than the non-disabled. It is discrimination not to allow people with disabilities to move about in society. Electric wheelchairs are provided for people with disabilities to go out comfortably. Electric wheelchairs can also be arranged to help the visually impaired. Is this not done to allow them the freedom to move about like all others.

According to the Korean Catholic Church Statistics' in 2019, 20.5% of all believers are over 65. The aging of the church is going right along with the aging of society. Older believers are sometimes burdensome, but they are a strong asset to the Church. The seriousness of their life of faith stands out above all the other age groups. The Mass participation rate is also high. The more eager the believer, the more difficult it is for them to not participate in the community.

The corona crisis is unlikely to end soon, and similar disasters can one day appear. Shouldn't active consideration for the elderly be systematically established? He brought this topic up with a few devoted believers in their 70s. Is it not possible through the media to have the Mass with sermons directed to the elderly and infirmed and have them regularly receive the Eucharist in their homes?

If people show us concern we need to be grateful but not all are grateful: we are not like pieces on a chessboard, We need to be active in helping persons find and achieve what they want. If not they become an 'outsider' and look upon themselves as losers. We need to share with those who are feeling 'outside'. What is lacking is the practice of love (Luke 6 31).

Mongdang Pencil=Proper Dreams Need a Chance to be Realized

 A scholar in the humanities writes in the Peace Weekly about (夢當緣必) 'proper dreams will be realized'. In Korean, the words read without the Chinese Characters are "Mongdang (Dream) Pencil" which gives the imagination much to work with. However, our writer wants us to reflect on the four characters: "proper dreams need a chance to be realized."

A dreamless life has little meaning even though it is biologically alive. Without a dream, there is no excitement, no life. Some people pour cold water on dreamers as a waste of energy since dreams are rarely realized, but everyone has the right to dream and the self-respect to work toward their realization.

Because of a dream, you can endure a difficult present, and continue working towards its realization. Dreams are a way of life, like the ocean voyager looking at the stars to find their way. When we achieve our dreams, big or small, we experience the joy of life. Even if for just a moment there is an unforgettable deep emotion.

Unfortunately, we are living in an environment where young people do not find it easy to dream, let alone their realization. It's difficult to get a job to solve your immediate needs, and even if you find a job the pay is poor and you don't know when it will stop. In such a life, dreams are a luxury and false.

The society where elementary school children's dreams are to get a regular job is cruel. It is a terrible society where life is divided into regular and non-regular jobs, and once trapped in the snare, it is impossible to escape. Is it possible to tell youth to dream and that dreams come true?

No matter how properly taught, it is a criminal act to force children to live in a world where they are forced to work with unfair treatment in unreasonable circumstances when they leave school. Adults should be held accountable for taking the children's dreams away. Dreams are necessary and adults need to create such a world for our young people. That is the responsibility of adults. To be able to dream, we need to create an environment where we can sleep comfortably. Adults who ignore this imperative are not preparing for the future.

The Gospel is a dream, an awesome reality, a duty of faith. Our confession of faith:  the power to criticize and fight against exploitation and distortion, oppression, and greed comes from the gospel. In our unfortunate situation, the first to fall are the weak. To neglect our duty is to betray the gospel. "The problem of poverty and inequality is not an economic problem, it is a theological problem." These words of Pope Francis we need to make our own.

Living the gospel is to dream, to create a world in which the "Mongdang Pencil" exerts its power to realize our dream. It is only possible when children and young people can dream and pray: "Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven." 

The practice of the Gospel is desperately needed in this tsunami of the Corona Pandemic. We need to rescue the weak who are the first to fall and give everybody an opportunity to dream. It is time for the church and the believers to be the first to work in accomplishing this task.

Survey Of Catholic Parishioners During Pandemic

In the recent Catholic Times, an article featured the results of a Believers' Survey in one of the dioceses, conducted online from May 20 to 27. Over 6,000 parishioners responded and a seminar was held to discuss the results of the survey and the future of the Korean church after the corona 19.

According to the survey, because of the Corona 19, there was the increased use of the 'Internet and smartphone, 84.2%, and 53% of respondents mentioned the discontinuing of the Mass was at first uncomfortable, but gradually improved.

Complicated were the answers to the prospect of a change in religious life after Corona 19. As for the positive outlook, 86.6% of respondents said, they will spend more time with family and 81.6%, will be more devoted to their spiritual life than before. The negative outlook: 69.3% thought there would be a decrease in Mass attendance and 54% thought the apostolic groups will not be the same even if the daily life recovers. Also, 58.7% saw the prospects that non-face-to-face online meetings will be increased.

Based on the results of the investigation, one of the members of the diocesan pastoral council said we should move on to the practice of faith centered on daily life. It is difficult to go back and there is a concern that those who are not able to adapt and give sufficient thought to the situation, will leave the community.

Believers who do come back may show higher loyalty than in the past, but those who were more passive will prefer non-facing methods. Therefore, he emphasized that what we do now is important. The reason for conducting this survey was also to change the pastoral direction and method for the foreseeable future. In particular, he commented that as a representative of the lay faithful, it is necessary to establish and implement countermeasures in line with the primary responsibility of the diocesan council

How do pastors see this phenomenon? The head of the  Pastoral Research Institute noted the many responses to the subjective questions. The respondents had a lot to say and had strong opinions. If you accept the opinions of the positive believers, you will have the opportunity to transform into a consensus church again. Otherwise, your understanding of the Catholic Church will be largely turned into disappointment and helplessness.

Another pastor mentioned an American diocese with a long history of democracy and cooperation with the laypeople. At this point, the church should be used as an opportunity for church reformation and renewal in the light of a timely consensus.

The bishop of the diocese was happy to see that the investigation has been conducted with the diocesan pastoral council. According to the findings, it will be difficult to return to the pre-Corona 19 situation. And hopes that the gathering together of the priests and the diocesan council will continue to meet and produce good fruit.

Participants expressed various opinions on the workings of the diocese The opinion that the church should take one step closer to young people and marginalized people was outstanding. The church needs to reach out to the places where young people are and communicate directly.

One participant wondered what the church would look like in 30 years if we don't pay attention to young people.

The article concludes with the head of the diocesan research institute who thought that the young people would join in great numbers because the investigation was conducted online. Instead, it was the parishioners in their 50s and 60s, the zealous workers in the church. We need to help these parishioners to participate more in-depth but also need to make efforts to reach out to the passive and marginalized. At present, the Mass has been reopened, but the marginalization of those who cannot attend the Mass because of age and health is growing. She wants the parish to think of ways the church is to reach those who are marginalized.

Mansions Without Toilets

Writing in the Believers' Column of the Catholic Times a religious sister talks about a village in which she was assigned many years ago, It was a petrochemical and industrial complex where many migrant workers lived in the 1990s.

The migrant workers have left and it has become a place for people living in poverty: the elderly, disabled, the poor without credit, in difficult economic conditions, coming in search of cheap rent. Also, the old houses are being destroyed and small and medium factories entering, the place, is somewhat desolate, but it is also a place where the voice of seniors sharing warmth in the small gardens separating the houses.

However, there are dangers with which the residents are not familiar. Greenhouse gas emitted daily from nearby industrial complexes, not only has poor air quality but also within the 30km radius of this village, we have nuclear power plants and are always exposed to the danger of nuclear accidents. After 6 pm, this area with little electricity usage carries the risk of nuclear radiation from high-voltage electricity production to Seoul and other large cities.

Currently, the convent where the sister lives is located in the most central area in Seoul, and the surrounding large buildings and street lights are on all night, and the light is so bright that she can live a basic life with the light of the next building without turning on the lights in her room. Ironically, the place with the most electricity use is more than 300 km from the nuclear power. Living in such circumstances for a year allowed her to think about energy and electricity.

She quotes a Japanese nuclear chemist who said that nuclear waste cannot be processed within the earth's limited time, a pioneer against nuclear expansion. Nuclear energy was likened to 'a mansion apartment without a toilet'. Nuclear power is a technology that attempts to destroy the stability of the atomic nucleus with the introduction of foreign matter. It is essentially incompatible with the principles of life on earth. We have seen the results in Hiroshima, Nagasaki, and Chernobyl.

In this way, a nuclear power plant can be considered as the epitome of generational egoism making the future generations deal with nuclear waste for more than 100,000 years. During a visit to Japan in 2019, Pope Francis said, "Humanity should not go against the natural rules set by God." He compared the "Nuclear Power Plant" to the "Babel Tower," a symbol of self-destruction caused by human greed. In a meeting with victims of the nuclear accident in Fukushima in January, he said, "We must realize that we have a great responsibility for future generations."

By the time this article was submitted, the results of the referendum in the Ulsan area of the country were not known but it was recently released and the citizens voted overwhelmingly against building more nuclear waste disposal systems ('macstor' systems) in the Ulsan area. The present government has gone on record to gradually decrease the dependence on nuclear energy.

Lastly, she appeals to the villagers who have little electricity."We, Seoul citizens with a lot of electricity, are eager to join you in halting the construction of the nuclear dump site!!!"

Care For the Elderly

Human life at all its stages is to be respected. The Catholic Times in a lead article discussed the respect for the elderly. In modern society, the elderly are not always seen as objects of respect and support.

The article quotes one professor: "Previously, filial piety, the respect for parents and the elderly, was the main value of society, but now it is no longer accepted because of changes in family structure, functions, and values. It has become difficult. Looking over the information on the elderly he sees discrimination and alienation occurring often among the elderly. The worst results are neglect and abuse.

The violation of dignity toward the elderly comes from a lack of awareness of their rights. This means cases of dignity infringement occur when an elderly person is perceived as a controllable entity. Looking at the cases of elder abuse they were perceived as possessions, not as persons who had decision-making rights.

A study on the concept of elderly human rights and experience of their infringement is perceived as an emotional human rights violation: when one doesn't do what they want or forced to do what they don't want to do—dignity has been violated when not respected.
 
The problem is that the lack of awareness of elderly human rights can produce more victims of abuse. This is because, in a society where the responsibility for caring for the elderly is given first to the family, people feel the burden of caring for the elderly due to aging, and as a result, stress and anger may accumulate, fostering aggression of people who lack the awareness of human rights.

According to the '2017 Report on the Abuse of the Aged' by the Ministry of Health and Welfare and the Center for the Protection of the Aged, more than half (58.8%) of the 8,415 cases of abuse occurred due to internal and external problems of supporting the elderly. Individuals' internal problems such as anger and impulsive personality were 34.5%, external problems such as stress, unemployment, and divorce were 17.8%, and the burden of supporting the victim was 6.5%, accounting for the majority of the causes of abusers.

In the 2018 Comprehensive Report on the Rights of the Aged, published by the National Human Rights Commission of 2018, 85.6% of respondents from young and matured adults said that "the care of the elderly should be the responsibility of the state or local governments." Only 57.6% answered 'yes' to the question of whether adult children should take care of the elderly in the family.

Experts advise that "elderly human rights awareness" and "care for socialization" are necessary to prevent their infringement. This means that the people who care for the elderly should be trained and the burden should be shared by society.
 
An Elder Abuse Response Plan to Enhance Human Rights in the Elderly recommends the need to expand the target of those to be helped: the importance of support programs for the elderly and families and a network to secure coping resources.

The  priest chairman of a Social Welfare Committee said: "The church has emphasized the precious value of life' as in the past." The changing perception of the elderly is the result of the changing value toward life. The reality of today, of ignoring and feeling disgusted toward the elderly, who are helpless, weak, and unable to do productive economic activities, is a sign of how far we have come in a materialistic outlook on life. "The church should continue to make efforts to awaken the precious value of life and spread the culture of life through solidarity with interested parties, experts, and field practitioners in society.

Synodality and the New Way of Being Church

Synodality is a word seen often in Korean Catholic circles. We had two articles in a bulletin addressed to priests recently on the subject. In the past we would talk about partnership, team ministry, working together, they were just words but it seems there is a change in the way the words are heard recently. I wonder if the coronavirus is not the catalyst that is bringing a change. 

One of the priests writes about a two-day training program on Synodality on the theme of 'God to the Church of the Third Millennium,' 'Synodality, a journey. It may seem like a new thing today, but in fact, it was there from the beginning in the long tradition of the Bible and the church. The two days spent together was to find ways to apply and practice it in the diocese and parish ministry.

Because of the coronavirus, there was some uncomfortableness among the group. However, after listening to the two lectures and sharing, the atmosphere was just right for dinner. Humans are made to live together and this is again experienced with the two-day program. The younger ones more so than the older. 

 In his room, he read quietly the Constitution of the Church of the Second Vatican Council. Particularly noticeable were Chapter 5, "The Church's Universal Call" and Chapter 7: "Pilgrim Church." Not only the clergy and religious but all the members of the Church are one— God does not drag us, unconditionally, but invites us with his strength and gifts.

The "sense of the faith of believers" is a gift of guidance by the Holy Spirit and the foundation of the Synodality we are called to. The writer has heard the good news of salvation, but since still in the world, he realized why co-consensus is critical as a 'road together' in an incomplete and uncertain community that wavers and moves forward.

The words he has heard most since becoming a pastor was: "Father, we want you to give us direction." Priests need to change, but the change of believers who have lived with "tell me what to do" will not be easy.

The Korean Catholic Church developed its faith from an intellectual group of seekers who were making "efforts to get the truth and seeking the right" (實事求是). Besides, those who saw the new world of equality and friendliness beyond social status were the leading players. It was a pioneering church. Society has changed, and the Church is now trying to change.

In joint participation and shared responsibility, the number of people and procedures are more complicated, but the 'moment of decision' starting from "everybody-some people-one person" is a church tradition familiar and not beyond our strength.

He concludes the article reminiscing having lived actively and with enthusiasm. But now that he has arrived at his middle 50s: "I want my fellow priests to help me, and the believers rather than respecting me to share my burden."