Go For Broke-- All or Nothing Syndrome

In an essay in the daily newspaper, a Korean in the States gives her opinion on the reason why Koreans become addicted to games and cosmetic surgery. She feels Koreans enjoy competition and want to be number one.

This desire to succeed in competition has enabled Korea to achieve much in such a short time. It is one of Korean's noble traits, and this desire permeates all of society. Parents have great expectations for their children, which also makes for much unhappiness.

When children are online and game-playing with their rivals, they see the points registering and this stimulates their desire to succeed and gives them a great sense of satisfaction.

Over half of Korean children want to be in the entertainment world. They know the exhilaration that comes with holding a microphone in hand and experiencing the adulation of their classmates.

The writer mentions that a friend, teaching in an academy in Korea, told her most of the girls wanted to be stewardesses because they were considered beautiful. These young girls knew that beauty gave them power.

Why is it that women, and now more frequently men, are frequenting the cosmetic surgery hospitals for a change of face and even for a change of body? Is it not because of the intense competition that we now have in society?

She mentions her own competitive drive. She was a well-paid lawyer in a big company but gave it up to become a writer. She looks back and sees it as something she did without a great deal of thought.Her son discovered hundreds of letters of rejection from her publishers. It took her 11 years before her first novel was accepted. She is doing something, however, that she enjoys.

The Korean temperament thrives on competition: winning is all important, and is the main reason, she believes, there is so much unhappiness among the children.

She wonders how this competitive climate might be changed, and proposes that there be more opportunities to succeed outside of studies. She doesn't think there is a need for more opportunities to have more star athletes, more famous musicians, more successful entrepreneurs. She hopes that more will see the beauty of life and look for the opportunity to experience failure and success in other areas of life.

Her thoughtful commentary was refreshing to read. The "All or nothing" attitude that she feels best describes our young people is bound to frustrate many--few ever become number one.

Growth In Faith Not Always a Given

Ranking Christians in some kind of order is not an easy undertaking, but one of the columnists in the Catholic Times did make the attempt, and although such a ranking has no objective basis, there were some interesting observations.

Sampling some Catholics in his neighborhood, the columnist assessed the quality of life after baptism, designating that life as one of four types: A, B, C, and D. He looks on the life after baptism as a continuum looking for blessings, the period of trial, and maturity.


Type A Catholic is one who is faithful to his duties, gives generously to the Church, and then suddenly stops practicing the Faith. His sample Catholic had a son who was not accepted in the university. This Christian is looking for blessings. When they don't come, his response is to leave the Church. The columnist finds this Type not insignificant in the makeup of our Catholics.

Type B Catholic was practicing for about 10 years but a couple of years ago started to miss Mass, giving as his reasons: work and hobbies, the priest's sermons were of little help, those working in different service areas of the Church were, he thought, arrogant, and he didn't care for them. He calls these Catholics Nylon Christians. They have problems with the way the Church is run and not interested in having a deeper relationship with God.

Type C Catholic was a woman who was devoted to her faith life and did a great deal of volunteer work in the parish but had little time for prayer and study of the Bible in the home. Mass was just an obligation and when problems came, she prayed, but rarely found consolation and peace in her life.

Type D Catholic was a man the columnist met during his Legion of Mary's work. Always concerned for the other and willing to give a helping hand; he was an outstanding example of a mature Catholic. At one time, everything, he owned was burned in a fire. His neighbors and friends were speechless at his misfortune. But he went to our Lord with this burden and found the strength to start over again, and now has no financial problems. He has faults but is considered saintly. .

The columnist feels that we have to cooperate with God's grace by upgrading our faith life. There are plenty of opportunities to do this: programs in Scripture studies, charismatic renewal programs, M.E weekends, Cursillos and countless other programs. God gives his gifts in the present; we miss opportunities by putting off what we should be doing now.

Life Of Blind Starting to Change

In Korea like any society, there are many who are not able to partake of the good life. The Peace Weekly, in a recent article on some who are having a difficult time coping, told the story of a woman who was born blind and was left in front of a hospital shortly after birth. Now 30 years old, she is in school studying music.

She was in the orphanage attached to the hospital until the age of 7 and then transferred to the school for the blind. She tells us: " I was lonely and wanted to talk to others about my situation, but I kept it to myself even during the years of puberty. I have a grudge against my parents. However, there must have been a reason for them to hand me over to the hospital. They got rid of me, but I want to forgive them."

She graduated from high school at no expense because of a government subsidy which also pays for her current music studies, but leaves nothing for her use.

In order to earn some money for her living expenses she has worked in massage parlors but most of them are places for sex. Only the blind are legally permitted to give massages, but the restriction is often not taken seriously.

When she got chubby, she was fired and then decided to work in the field of music. She's been told she has talent but living in a culture that is not very understanding of the handicapped, she often is frustrated by the responses she gets when she expresses her desire for a career in music. There are signs that this unfortunate situation is changing: we will soon have our first blind lawyer in Korea.

The Japanese, by training the blind to practice medical massage, were instrumental in opening the way for the blind in Korea to work in this area. This has now spread to other parts of the world. The blind make good masseurs; it is a shame that the image of the massage parlor is no longer what it was.

An Jung-geun Not Only Patriot But Saint?

The Seoul Diocese will begin the process to canonize An Jung-geun (1879-1910). This was made known at a press forum at the beginning of the month by the auxiliary bishop of Seoul. The long process of looking into the life of the patriot to see what his faith meant in his efforts for justice and peace will take time, but it should bring an appreciation of Patriot An to more Koreans. He will then take his rightful place in the Catholic Church's understanding of one of their very spiritual members.

In 1993, Cardinal Kim of Seoul made it clear that what An Jung-geun did in killing Ito could be seen as righteous self-defense. Cardinal Chong, speaking at a memorial Mass celebrating the 100th anniversary of the death of the patriot, emphasized the spirituality of the patriot: “Thomas An was a devoted Catholic and we cannot understand his life without his faith. That’s why we celebrate this Mass remembering his death."

China has always seen An as a patriot, believing the killing of Ito not a grudge killing but an effort to find peace. It is surprising how long it took Korea to understand the motivation of the patriot. His decision came only after much soul-searching, and was prompted by what he understood as his faith commitment to Jesus. Part of the reason for the long delay in appreciating Patriot An's actions was the Catholic Church's collaboration with the Japanese during those years.

His fight against imperialism was not only for Korea but for peace in East Asia. He was a true patriot, an independent freedom fighter who took upon himself the effort of doing something that others found hopeless. A great deal of information is available on what motivated him. He knew the stories of other fighters for independence in other countries, which prompted him to return to Korea and work for peace not only with Japan but throughout Asia. The canonization process that is beginning will help us to understand how difficult it is for a person to do what he feels is right when many in the society of his time did not have his vision, courage and commitment.

Korean Attempt To Solve A Serious Problem

Pastors in Korea are asked to do many things but those who have special jobs in the chancery also receive requests from lay people. One priest responsible for youth work in a diocese brings to mind a problem we see quite frequently in Korea.

A woman the priest knew asked him to visit a home she had been helping because of the family situation. The father had a stroke and was not able to walk, and the mother spends her day working to support the family. The son who was in the 6th grade grammar school stopped going to school, and spends his day playing video games. The woman wanted the priest to get him to return to school.

The priest was not happy with the request. He was not a pastor, and to liberate one from their addiction is no easy task. "Father you know these problems well, just meet him once! Ha, ha" giggling, off she went.

The priest didn't know what to do. Meeting the boy once is not going to get him off playing the video games. Will his visit bring joy and hope into the life of the boy, and bring any kind of peace into the family?

Since the priest is responsible for preparing teachers for the catechetical programs in parishes, he does get requests for help dealing with the youth. "Father you have a great personality and a sunny disposition, children follow you" are words he has often heard, but, he tells them to look at his face and see how he has aged and what worry has done to him.

After much thought he decided to contact the boy and invite him to a meal. He went to a family restaurant and had the boy choose anything he wanted. The boy, "This is the first time I have been here." To the question how is the meal he was not answering. The meal was important, but he was thinking how to use the situation with his classmates as something to give him face.

The conversation at the table was difficult, everything had to be related to something in his life. During the conversation, you saw a tear drop from the boy's eyes; the priest turned his gaze towards the window as tears came into his own eyes.

The article did not mention the result of the meeting, but the problem with video games is serious. The government has banned playing video games after midnight and the government will put a 'slowdown system' that will reduce the internet speed of any underage user who plays the virtual video games over a certain period of time. Some have difficulty with this type of censorship, but when you are faced with a problem of this type, attempts of the government will be welcomed by most parents.

Importance of Resiliency In Our Lives

The Catholic Times in their weekly column on some aspect of spirituality, focused this week on the necessity of resiliency in life. A recent study concluded that young men brought up in an environment that ordinarily fosters delinquency and societal dropouts were often able to survive unscathed when they were not committed to a rigid way of thinking and behaving..

What made these young men overcome the obstacles they faced growing up? The columnist believes the answer was a flexible attitude. They had the ability to accept or reject whatever they encountered in their environment--the good or the bad--as they assimilated experiences and created their value system. When used for their growth, this ability enabled these young men to see the world positively.

Our Church should attempt to find what fosters this flexibility, this self- resiliency, and then find ways to encourage its growth. Determining how much and in what manner our environment affects us would also be helpful.

Some of the questions to gauge flexibility might be: Am I able to accept myself humbly, at whatever stage I now find myself? How much of what has happened to me will I accept as resulting from my choice? Am I into the blame-game? What I am now is because of my parents, or my grandparents, or my brothers or sisters, my difficult family relationship, the poverty of the family, the bad atmosphere of my neighborhood, my school teachers, a certain friend--the list is almost endless.

We need to change the above to a different list: because of God, because of my belief, because of God's love for me. This list is never changed by circumstances of our life and can be available to all no matter their environment.

Also helpful in bringing to mind the need for a resilient attitude is to repeat, as often as necessary, the well-known Serenity prayer: "God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

Knowing How To Read Statistics

"Why do I, standing in the shadow of this large and splendid Cathedral, feel so cold?" were the beginning words of an article in the Chosun Ilbo yesterday that reported some interesting and disturbing statistics on the Catholic Church just published for 2009.

Catholics are now 10.1 percent of the population, with an increase of baptized Catholics over the previous year. Participants to an academic meeting, which evaluated the statistics, see the figures as possibly indicating both a period of stability and a warning sign for the future- that a decline may be immanent, unless preventive measures are taken.

The group wants to focus not only on the positive but on what the statistics may tell us about a not so positive future. In the year 2000, 29 percent of Catholics regularly attended Mass; in 2008, 24 percent were attending.

One of the presenters was quoted as saying that the efforts at renewal are insufficient to keep the loss of faith from spreading. Signs of the stabilizing process: Loss of faith and secular ways of thinking are spreading, better living conditions of our priests and religious, increase of leisure time, and the weakening of the prophetic in our faith life. If we continue to neglect this situation, according to the consensus of the group, we will enter a period of decline. .

One suggested that we can no longer continue with priests at the center of our faith life. Lay people have to take their rightful place, participating fully with the priest in what is going on in the Church.

Another said we shouldn't concern ourselves with numbers but with how many Catholics are following our Lord. A layman from the Korean Catholic Cutural Center noted that the Church in past years had few possessions, was not well organized, and priests and religious were living in poverty but, paradoxically, the Church received more respect. And yet another participant thought that the communication from the established dioceses has to improve if the situation is to change.

What begins imperceptibly without being noticed often brings unexpected and disastrous results. It is like the frog in lukewarm water, enjoying the swim, raising the heat slowly, the frog will not realize the small increase in temperature and, without concern, will die in the boiling water.

Both Catholic newspapers in recent editorials mentioned that the signs of a possible decline for the Korean Church, similar to what has happened to the European Catholic community are ominously clear. The hope is that the Bishops will do something about the anticipated problem. Perhaps a few more saints would also help to show us where we have gone wrong and to point us in a new direction.