Overcoming Depression from Coronavirus

Many people complain of depression due to the (Corona 19) situation, which has lasted longer than expected. Even in a situation where it is not easy to continue the external religious life, those stuck at home are increasing, and new conflicts and problems within raise their heads. For peace in the family, the Catholic newspaper met the director of the Anger Management Research Institute, to find out how to overcome (corona depression) in a healthy way.

 Everyone is going through a frustrating and difficult period. In particular, the family where the most time is spent, parents are having difficulty as parents and children as children.

Corona Blue begins with a sense of loss caused by the rapid increase in the number of corona19 confirmed patients, which was expected to decrease, a catalyst for depression. As the situation persists when you can't do big or small things, you become irritable, and this irritation leads to stress.

The director diagnosed the main reasons for depression in three major ways. The first is because one feels trapped. One lived freely in an open space but now feels frustrated and cautious even about leaving the house.

Next, it's because of the tension about a situation you never experienced before. The world has changed. Anyone in an unfamiliar situation becomes nervous, and this situation has continued for half a year causing irritation and stress.

The last reason is the sudden increase in home chores while preparing three meals. Consequently, housewives suffer the most stress, and the mother's stress is transmitted to their children.

"We have lost our daily routine," said the director. "Depression is related to sadness, and it is similar to the feeling of losing what we cherish. The hopeless vagueness about the ending of the pandemic brings a feeling of depression as well as physical exhaustion."

“Are you having a hard time?” When we believe that we are alone with problems then the family becomes a battlefield. It is a societal problem and must remain so.

The director has been dealing with family problems since 1998. He pointed out that most of the problems among families in which the relationship is not good are because of anger. He emphasized the need for empathy in communication.

"Corona 19 is paradoxically purifying our lives; it is necessary to think about what we say to  each other, rather than living as you please at home."
 
He explained that just accepting the fact that everyone is struggling through this period is comforting.  He added the physical distancing remains but we are in this together and when we hear of a person infected we don't ask 'why'? but  'how'? to heal and overcome the infection in the future.

Director Lee emphasized, "You must love one another." "This is the age of love and harmony." In I Peter 4:8 we hear:  "Above all, love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins."  We must not forget that we are all weak children of God filled with dignity. Our enemy is Corona 19. The people who love Corona 19 are those that want disorder.”

The last problem to overcome is to maintain your daily life. When the director opens his eyes in the morning, he gives thanks for his health and prays: "Give me the courage to calmly, even if I am unintentionally infected, to go along with my life as before."

It is not without a change in his daily life. The number of activities, lectures, and counseling, etc. to meet people due to Corona 19 decreased. Instead, the time he spent walking and time with his wife increased. "My income has decreased, but my relationship with my wife has improved," he said with a confident smile. "The sugar level also went down."

Finally, the secret of “Sodeska” (“is that so” in Japanese) is effective for dealing with angry people was also mentioned. When someone gets angry, it is a way to take a break by saying "Sodeska~".

“Life becomes a lot less difficult when you learn how to handle emotions well. All conflicts arise not from the situation, but because of our attitude towards the situation.”

Absence of God

In Korea as in many parts of the world the numbers of those who are considered non-believers continue to increase. The pandemic will no doubt intensify this tendency.
 
Religion for many gave meaning to life but nowadays with the help of science people find purpose in life without religion but again it is forgetting the difference between meaning and purpose. They are different. One can find purpose in life without religion but without meaning life becomes pointless. Finding purpose in life is important but it may blind us from meaning as in the case of Paul.

A mother in one of the parish bulletins asks for help in dealing with her son Paul who as a child was an altar boy,  dutifully went to catechism classes during his school years, entering college all changed.

She mentions in her letter that when she told her son to at least go to Mass his response was clear. "Mother, God is supposed to be almighty why is the world in such a mess? Why do we have the pandemic? If there was a God he would not leave those he made and love endure such suffering.  Mother you need a religion, please don't interfere with my freedom to not believe."

The writer tells the mother that the son's premise is incomplete. Her son's situation is widespread, many other families are experiencing similar reactions. God is not only almighty but also at the same time all loving and merciful. He gave us his Son to save us and watch over us.

God's way is not our way, he transcends all our thinking. We can never succeed in understanding God with our minds. He is always leading us towards the good; not only the good we easily understand but to a greater good that we don't understand.

This Almighty God gave us his son. He loved us so much he wanted to live with us and allowed him to die on the cross to show us that love. The Jews of that time were not able to accept him. That he was the son of God was too much for them it was blasphemy.

They wanted to get rid of him. He was not God almighty, for them, it was the clear absence of God. Although he was God he was not seen as God. He was silent; they did not hear his voice. Their eyes and ears were not open.

God is everywhere but transcends all. Paul, your son was not able to grasp all the other aspects of God besides being almighty. He did not appreciate his mercy, patience, and his leading us to the greater good. Was this not the absence of God. He has yet to meet the God who came to earth to carry the cross. Liturgically today is the day we recall this truth.  He only saw the God who was meant to get rid of all suffering. He was not able to see the God of love. Paul in his later years when he has met suffering and is open to the  graces and the working of the Holy Spirit  will like St. Thomas: "My Lord and my God."

God is everywhere. But those who are not conscious of this he is absent. They do not see the world with God's eyes but only God with earthly eyes. When one is able to open the eyes of the heart and go deep into the recesses to experience the presence of Jesus it's then that all changes. This is spiritual maturity. This change on the spiritual journey continues and because of God's transcendence, we begin to appreciate that God comes to us differently every day. His absence allows us to experience a different presence.  Am I bound to the God that I have created?

Do We Grow Maturer With Age?

A religious sister with a background in psychology and spirituality writes in the Kyeongyang magazine on the spirituality of the elderly. As a child, she thought the aged knew everything and in elementary school, she listened to their every word. She would one day reach that stage. But as she grew into her teens, instead of trust in the elderly she began having doubts, questions, and disappointments. 

This is true very likely for most of the young people who enter society as adults. As they begin they are faced with great hopes but meet disappointments, frustrations. and discord and realize that they are now adults. They understand that becoming adults does not guarantee maturity.

Age has many different meanings.  Biological age is what we see inscribed on a tombstone and the age in which society uses to determine when you go to school, legally drink alcohol, get a driving license, and can vote.

There are other meanings for the word, age. They have now reached the age of discretion. This is the age that society expects one to reach. Confucius expressed this very well: At 30 he planted his feet firmly upon the ground, at 40 he no longer suffered perplexities, at 50 he knew the bidding of heaven, at 60 he heard with a docile year. This is what society hopes from age. 

The way one deals with age is different for each person. The body, work, connection with others, and a person's inner qualities change. One has feelings of dejection, anger, aggressiveness, and at times one shows great vigor. Internal and external changes are different for each person. She has several older siblings and each one is dealing with the coronavirus situation in different ways.

One brother after retiring, to help the family financially continued working in another job but because of the virus had to stop and it was shortly after that his children left the household for other parts of the country because of their jobs. The grandchildren went with the families which brought loneliness to the grandfather and grandmother. They were no longer relating to a large family but the two of them were left in an empty house with fear not knowing when the pandemic was going to end.

After six months of this kind of living a change, a transition appeared.  He was from an old Catholic family and took his religion as a matter of habit and now he began to question: What does it mean to live? He began to search for meaning in life. After much vacillation and fear, he came to a new decision. He began to read the Bible seriously and attended internet Mass daily and a feeling of being at peace began to enter his life. The diocesan cemetery was close by and would go there for walks and visit the graves of those he knew with a prayer in his heart. He began to realize that this was going to be his home in the future and was filled with great peace.

Jean-Luc Hétu and other scholars in the field of gerontology see the need for the old to examine their inner life. When it comes time to give up all work because of the bodily condition the aged need to expand their inner life and their inner strength. This inner life needs to increase in maturity. This is where the religious and spiritual aspects of life and strength need to be cultivated and the feeling of helplessness and fear abandoned and peace, simple hope, and a closeness to God experienced.

This 'inner age' transcends the biological age, legal and social age and we have the fruit of old age with joy, peace, and hope. In conclusion with age, we grow in religious faith, participate in the hope of our Lord's resurrection. We begin living life in a new dimension, helped by all the martyrs, saints that have preceded us.

More Fearful Than the Virus

These days, it's difficult to find persons who will sit down with a book related to philosophy. So begins an article in the Catholic Peace Weekly by a research scholar. Is it not because we have entered an era where practicality and efficiency are important? However, this is also an era when people are overcome with work and urgency and need time to reflect on the changes and complexity of life.

 "Let’s think about it and live." He believes these words were on a gag program on TV. Words that began with young people but has spread in society. This thinking is criticized for its 'lack of common sense' way of living: referring to a person who acts selfishly and becomes a public nuisance.

The reason he started the article in the way he did were thoughts that came to mind concerning the existentialist philosopher Kierkegaard in his book The Sickness unto Death. For the philosopher two centuries ago the disease leading to death was not a medical disease but the human condition—despair. 

We are facing problems beyond medicine and quarantine, fighting the Corona 19 virus, which stirs up, destroys, and threatens the daily life it is also increasing the social and psychological risks and conflicts in society.

There is a view that sees society as an abstract community concept searching for integration, and others who see society as a conflict of interests. The starting point is different, but the integration and conflict we often talk about are not contradictory concepts.

Since society is not a stationary structure, but an ecosystem of dynamic human entities, we must overcome the problem of conflict and at least control it to reach a stable state of integration. Therefore, the task of the Presidential Committee on Social Integration, which has been in each successive government, has always selected issues of conflict and sought ways to resolve them. 

Generation gap, gender, region, class, and ideology are called the five major conflicts in Korean society. Now, however, these old challenges are creating a complex situation as they interact with the virus. As biological risks combine with internal interests, conflicts, desires, and collective egoism in human society, social conflicts appear. In addition to the five major conflicts, culture and religion, livelihood, and variables of interest are in the mix.

The chaos brought to our ecosystem because the virus erupts into anger and hatred is as harmful as the pandemic itself. With the prolonged coronavirus outbreak, we have the time to not only combat the virus but to study it as a dangerous mediator of social conflict.

Just as the philosopher Kierkegaard talked about the disease leading to death as despair, what is more, dangerous than the viruses may be our ignorance and prejudice against viruses. We need to break free from ignorance, strengthen empathy between people, restore a healthier community relationship, and strong social solidarity, otherwise, the virus, and our inner faults will bring greater confusion to the world in which we live.

A False Understanding of Religion

In the beginning, Korea was panicky with the entrance of the coronavirus but received the praise of the world for its exemplary approach to the virus. But recently the country returned to the fear of the virus with its spread again all over the country. How to overcome this is the recent concern of all. The writer, a humanitarian scholar, writes in the Catholic Peace Weekly on an unhealthy religious attitude.

One of his friends who made a lot of money by opening a big business in the city said: "The current government is a socialist regime and will soon reveal its true color as communism." That was 3 years ago. Why is it still not communized? The funniest thing is that the most representative example of the socialist system for his friend was free meals at school. When asked why: "Is it not the distribution of a free food system?"

A sad answer, even difficult to laugh at? No medicine will cure his lack of understanding and reasons for his bias. In his knowledge, the friend managed to go to medical school; he had to drop out because of his family situation. His family was having a hard time paying for medical school tuition, so it is easy to understand how hard his college days were. Perhaps because he is now rich and has a stable job, and succeeded on his own, it has influenced his thinking. In the 21st century, we are still living with McCarthyism.

He heard his friend went to the Gwanghwamun meeting that day. (This was an anti-government protest on August 15, 2020, attacking the policies of the incumbent government and going against the quarantine efforts of the government) His thorough 'patriotism' and 'anti-communist spirit' sent him there. He went because he could no longer stand by and see the country break down democracy and transform into communism.

The writer didn't know he was a patriotic citizen but indifferent to world affairs during the dictatorship of Park Jeong-hee and Chun Doo-hwan. It was terrifying to see them cheer far-right politicians. He hopes that they were not infected with Corona 19 and were concerned enough of their neighbors to be examined for the virus after attending. If his conscience was present he would have received a check-up.

He is not sure why he attended the demonstration. However, it is a logical leap to speculate that loyalty to the church also played a part. He is an elder of a large church led by a pastor who has a far-right worldview. Listening to the sermon files he occasionally sends, they are untheological, anti-religious, and anti-church and the writer can barely endure five minutes. But even more surprising is the response of believers who enthusiastically shout "Amen" and "Hallelujah!" at the end of each of the pastor’s sentences.

There is nothing new about it because he has already seen such churches and believers, but the preaching that if the church tolerates concern for the poor and works for their betterment this is the beginning of Communism, and abandoning the faith was shocking.

Indeed, they went there to seek freedom of faith and eradication of Communism, and they have to ask whether their beliefs are universally valid and, above all, evangelical?

Have they forgotten the history of the church of the middle ages where people gathered in churches and prayed at the outbreak of the plague and all died? We pray but use our heads to do what science has shown us to be true. It must be remembered that when the church doesn't follow the true knowledge of science it will be reproached especially in this modern age. Is it not the age of science?

Religion's Mission In the Corona Era

The current spread of Corona 19 in Korea is not so serious that the Korean Defense, for which we are proud becomes meaningless. Social distancing has been upgraded to the 2.5 stage, and if the situation worsens there is a concern that the quarantine stage will be upgraded to stage 3. The nationwide re-proliferation of Corona 19 is mostly caused by group infections that have continued since the beginning of August. Many media outlets are dealing with the fact that most of the origins are in Protestantism and Liberation Day rallies. So begins the column In the Eyes of the Believer of the Catholic Times by a pastor.

With 200 to 300 confirmed corona19 cases every day, the quarantine authorities imposed super-strong measures to restrict business operations: restaurants and cafes,  face-to-face worship, and meetings for Protestants, regular Masses for Catholics and Buddhist religious services. The Protestant side argued that stopping worship was religious oppression and violates religious freedom, and continued face-to-face worship even if they had to pay a fine. Of course, many Protestant churches practiced non-face-to-face worship, but many Protestant churches insisted on their regular worship, ignoring administrative orders from the quarantine authorities. Among  Protestant church members, some refused testing and did not cooperate with the authorities resulting in the spread of the coronavirus.

Recently heard in society: "religion is not concerned about society, but society needs to be concerned about religion." In the post-corona era, religion is seen as something that brings harm to society. A situation where citizens' anger and hatred against religions continue to this day due to the coronavirus outbreak from Shincheonji in Daegu and the initial spread thru the country. Some Protestant communities contrary to common sense, oppose the quarantine measures, a reason for a return of ill feelings towards religion. It is becoming the main culprit making social awareness of the situation more negative.

According to the results of a recent survey in June by the Pastoral Data Research Institute, Catholics and Buddhists have a predominantly positive image, within society such as 'gentle' and 'warm', but for Protestants, there is a more negative image.

However,  in the survey 72% of the respondents: "I honestly feel that religion has no role in the critical situation of the corona crisis." Catholicism and Buddhism also need to consider the role of religion in the post-corona era. We must carefully listen to what a scholar says: religion has been transformed not as a "subject of salvation," but rather as a "media of infection,"  not as a "healing space," but a "hotbed of infection".

If religion continues to exist in the post-corona era and wants to play a role of light and salt in the world, shouldn't religion become a community that recognizes the common good of society and work towards its realization? In a disaster situation, religion and citizenship, the individual and religious freedom and the civic good must harmonize and coexist. However, if the freedom of religion is used exclusively for organizational maintenance and expansion, belief propagation, and practice, it will eventually become the object of social criticism, and freedom will be limited.

For the church to exhibit the good of all, it is necessary to restore the social responsibility of the faith, thereby enabling a truly new evangelization. It is necessary to work for the common good in the larger society beyond the church fence.

Currently, there are too many neighbors suffering physical, economic, and psychological pain amid the chaos experienced by the entire human race due to the corona pandemic. The ecclesial community should feel social responsibility for the lives of the suffering neighbors, and witness to God's mercy.

If we properly fulfill the role of religion for the common good and to neighbors suffering from corona, we will not be neglected and coldly treated by citizens. In the post-corona era, one of the most effective ways for churches to practice social responsibility is to visit the suffering, help to heal their pain, share, and sustainably care for them. Now is the time to move from words to actions. "Children, let us not love with words and tongue, but in truth through deeds" (1 John 3:18).

Even With the Strike Save Lives...

Recently the government planned to increase the number of medical students and to require a majority to practice outside Seoul. The doctors are opposed to the plans and have protested by striking. A retired journalist writing in the Eyes of the Believer column of the Catholic Times gives the readers his thoughts on the issue.
 
On August 21st he read on the information board in front of Seoul St. Mary's Hospital: "The corona test is not conducted due to a shortage of medical personnel due to the strike." He was upset deeply. "It's the biggest crisis since the coronavirus entered Korea and the doctors are not testing for the virus...?" Should not the Catholic hospitals take a lead when it's a question of 'life and love'? Is not this their brand name?"

Of course, strikes are the right of those that work. However, there is always a problem with a strike by doctors (intentionally or not) that can bring harm to the "life of a person". Moreover, this time, the situation is completely different because of the proliferation of the coronavirus, and fear the whole country is entering an emergency situation.

"The biggest crisis since the corona entered Korea" is the expression of President Moon Jae-in on the present situation. President Moon instructed: "For acts that hinder quarantine, we must strictly enforce the law with firm legal measures."

Perhaps because of the authoritarian nuance of this statement, it was a way of talking President Moon was not accustomed to using. Because the pandemic situation in Korea is urgent, he ordered the administration to take strong measures to establish social order.

If we are not able to control the present situation we will go into level 3 of social distancing, and enter a very serious situation. Socially, only some essential facilities remain, most facilities will close. Businesses will have to switch to telecommuting as much as possible. Sports will be completely stopped, and all fields including politics, economy, diplomacy, and culture will be severely contracted.

If the death toll increases significantly, citizens are psychologically adversely affected. There will be a long shadow of depression and fear in the whole society. Much of our current life will be harmed. In a social disaster, it is the weak,  sick, poor, elderly, and disabled, that are sacrificed first.

The work of doctors has increased, so securing more doctors and more beds have become a big problem. Because of this, many ask: "Why are the doctors striking now? It's like saying that we won't treat the injured when the war breaks out."

Those who generously accept workers' right to strike are also worried about the strike that coincides with the spread of the coronavirus and even making the corona tests difficult. The doctors did not intentionally set the strike date at the time of the corona re-proliferation crisis but this was the result.

Nothing is as holy as saving lives, and this is the professional calling of a doctor. A primary task of a doctor would be "not to break a broken reed, nor extinguish a smoldering wick" in the words of Jesus. It was to heal the sick that Jesus worked on the Sabbath against the custom of the times. "The Sabbath was made for man, not man  for the Sabbath."

The degree of maturity of a society is revealed in times of crisis, and this also comes from the reverence for life. Human life is itself a noble value from the beginning, not a value that can be exchanged for a strike. To compare again with the words of Jesus: "Strike is for man, man is not for Strike."

Doctors hope that even if a strike is inevitable, they want to exercise wisdom to save human life first. He believes or rather prays that we will negotiate a strike while taking care of corona issues and critically ill patients who need surgery. If you think about it, now is also a great opportunity for the maturing of our society.